Guys and Dolls was on TCM the other night. I admit it, I love most musicals. Guys and Dolls is no exception. I particularly love this song.
Truth be told, sometimes we should sit down and stop “rocking the boat.” Life can’t always be fair, but we have to make do with what we have sometimes. However, there are certain things worth fighting for which calls for “rocking the boat.” If we all are to treat others fairly and truthfully, we may rock the boat a little, but the world will be a better place.
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Rocking the Boat
Peace on Earth, Good Will Toward Men
Matthew 1:18-2:12
Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a publick example, was minded to put her away privily. But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost. And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins. Now all this was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying, “Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us.” Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife: And knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name JESUS.
Now when Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judaea in the days of Herod the king, behold, there came wise men from the east to Jerusalem, Saying, Where is he that is born King of the Jews? for we have seen his star in the east, and are come to worship him. When Herod the king had heard these things, he was troubled, and all Jerusalem with him. And when he had gathered all the chief priests and scribes of the people together, he demanded of them where Christ should be born. And they said unto him, In Bethlehem of Judaea: for thus it is written by the prophet, And thou Bethlehem, in the land of Juda, art not the least among the princes of Juda: for out of thee shall come a Governor, that shall rule my people Israel. Then Herod, when he had privily called the wise men, inquired of them diligently what time the star appeared. And he sent them to Bethlehem, and said, Go and search diligently for the young child; and when ye have found him, bring me word again, that I may come and worship him also. When they had heard the king, they departed; and, lo, the star, which they saw in the east, went before them, till it came and stood over where the young child was. When they saw the star, they rejoiced with exceeding great joy. And when they were come into the house, they saw the young child with Mary his mother, and fell down, and worshipped him: and when they had opened their treasures, they presented unto him gifts; gold, and frankincense, and myrrh. And being warned of God in a dream that they should not return to Herod, they departed into their own country another way.
Luke 2:1-20
And it came to pass in those days, that there went out a decree from Caesar Augustus, that all the world should be taxed. (And this taxing was first made when Cyrenius was governor of Syria.) And all went to be taxed, every one into his own city. And Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judaea, unto the city of David, which is called Bethlehem; (because he was of the house and lineage of David:) To be taxed with Mary his espoused wife, being great with child. And so it was, that, while they were there, the days were accomplished that she should be delivered. And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn. And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid. And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord. And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger. And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying, “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.” And it came to pass, as the angels were gone away from them into heaven, the shepherds said one to another, Let us now go even unto Bethlehem, and see this thing which is come to pass, which the Lord hath made known unto us. And they came with haste, and found Mary, and Joseph, and the babe lying in a manger. And when they had seen it, they made known abroad the saying which was told them concerning this child. And all they that heard it wondered at those things which were told them by the shepherds. But Mary kept all these things, and pondered them in her heart. And the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things that they had heard and seen, as it was told unto them.
‘Tis the Season
I like your Christ,
I do not like your Christians.
Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.
~Mohandas Gandhi
At the beginning of October, Artistry of Male, one of my favorite blogs, not only for it’s beautiful pictures of men, but also for his words of inspiration, wrote a post about his faith, titled, “Another Disclosure – My Religion: AOM SoulFood.” I hope you will read his statement. It is very close to my own philosophy on religion. I may lose some readers for my religious leanings in the following posts, but please remember that I am not proselytizing, merely stating my faith and showing that someone can be devoutly Christian and be gay. Not all people see Christianity and homosexuality as two things that can coexist, but I am here to tell you that they can. In this season of giving, fellowship, and peace, please remember what the angels said to the shepherds as they watched their flock on the day of Christ’s birth, “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.” (Luke 2:14)
I am a devout Christian. Some of you may recognize the following as the Nicene Creed:
I believe in one God, Father Almighty, Creator of heaven and earth, and of all things visible and invisible. And in one Lord Jesus Christ, the only-begotten Son of God, begotten of the Father before all ages; Light of Light, true God of true God, begotten, not created, of one essence with the Father through Whom all things were made. Who for us men and for our salvation came down from heaven and was incarnate of the Holy Spirit and the Virgin Mary and became man. He was crucified for us under Pontius Pilate, and suffered and was buried; And He rose on the third day, according to the Scriptures. He ascended into heaven and is seated at the right hand of the Father; And He will come again with glory to judge the living and dead. His kingdom shall have no end. And in the Holy Spirit, the Lord, the Creator of life, Who proceeds from the Father, Who together with the Father and the Son is worshipped and glorified, Who spoke through the prophets. In one, holy, catholic, and apostolic Church. I confess one baptism for the forgiveness of sins. I look for the resurrection of the dead and the life of the age to come. Amen
This is a profession of faith. My particular “denomination” of Christianity does not recite the Nicene Creed. We simply have our faith in the Holy Trinity: the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost. For me, I believe that if you follow the basic tenements of all faiths Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you, then you will be rewarded in the next life, whether that life is a an eternity in Heaven, reincarnation, reaching moksha or other form of enlightenment, or being forever remembered by your ancestors. In America we are blessed to live in a country where we are all free to worship our own faith, or no faith at all.
I am writing this post because often I am irreverent (sometimes borderline sacrilegious), especially in my other blog, but I have no doubt about my faith in God. I strive everyday to treat those around me the way in which I would like to be treated. I teach my students that intolerance is unacceptable in any form.
What I am about to say is not because I believe I am a messenger from God, merely his humble servant. When God has sent messengers to earth, he has used some of the most humble of humans. The young man Joseph sold into slavery in Egypt, who God sent to interpret the dreams of the Pharaoh. The shepherds who in the fields as they watched their sheep who were told of the birth of Christ. There are many more examples, just remember that messages can come from the most unlikely places.
A Glass Half Full
By the way, next week is my birthday. I will be thirty-three years old. Since last week was Thanksgiving, and this week is my birthday, I thought I would take an assessment of my present situation and remind myself all the reasons I should be thankful. Hopefully, I will also have some bubbly on my birthday (though I hope it is something better than Ballatore Gran Spumante, like the model above). I love champagne, sparkling wine, Asti, and prosecco, any of the before mentioned will do (Moët White Star is my favorite). While in France, I learned the dangers of cheap champagne. (Note: never, ever, ever, and I mean, never, buy a €1 bottle of champagne in France. It will be the worst hangover you have ever had, no matter how little of it you drink.)
I am certainly glad that a few years ago, I decided to change my attitude about life and become an optimist. I keep the motto that everything will work out in the end, because it is God’s will, not mine. I could easily be a pessimist, like many people I know, including my mother. I am still in graduate school, though I wish that I were finished by now and if I had not procrastinated and things had not gone against me several times, I might be done by now. I have a job I really don’t like at a small private academy teaching middle and high school students, with some subjects outside my field and making very little money. Five days a week, I deal with spoiled brats who have very little respect for elders, and I deal with an administrator who has a completely different philosophy than me when it comes to education. I have to deal with parents, who think their children do no wrong and that I show favoritism to other kids, which they see as a bad thing unless it is their kid that they see me showing favor to. Furthermore, my parents know that I am gay and refuse to accept it. They insist on a total don’t ask, don’t tell, don’t discuss policy toward my sexuality.
So what am I thankful for? First of all, in this economy, I have a job doing what I love to do: teach. It may not be a perfect situation and on many days it may be frustrating, but at least it is a job and it is a teaching job.
Second, even though the income is not great, I found a wonderful little house to rent with a ridiculously low rent from the sweetest landlady who is not nosy in a small town of busybodies. This also means that I am no longer living with my parents. I have my freedom to come and go as I please, with no questions asked. It may not be a lot, but it is something.
I also have a college class that I teach two nights a week that keeps me sane. My students are older and are an absolute joy to teach. Even after a long trying day teaching middle and high schoolers, my college class can lift my energy and spirit like nothing else. I wish everyone had the chance to find that much fulfillment in a job that only takes two and a half hours a week.
Furthermore, though my parents may not like my sexuality, nor fully support it, at least they did not disown me. They still love me no matter what and maybe one day they will accept the situation for what it is. Until that time, the don’t ask, don’t tell, don’t discuss policy is working fine as a sort of armistice. At least it keeps questions from being asked all the time.
Also, I have not given up on graduate school. I will get my PhD eventually, I just have to finish this damn dissertation. I think I am on the right track finally, and I just need to learn how to manage my small amounts of free time better. Whether that means working on my dissertation during my planning period at school or learning to get enough sleep. Maybe I am somewhat caught up on my sleep after this week where I have done a lot of sleeping during my recovery from surgery.
Lastly, since I started my blogs, I have made some wonderful new friends. Those friends I cherish as much as the flesh and blood friends I know in my personal life. You guys are just as real to me as those flesh and blood friends (after all, you are made of flesh and blood). I love hearing from you guys through comments, emails, chatting, text messages. All of you are dear to me, though some I may not keep in touch with like I should, I still love you guys and think about you. Thanks for being my friends.
Oh, and one last thing. I have made it to my thirty-third year (well almost, here’s hoping, LOL). Now if this just means that I am only a third or a fourth of the way through my life, then I have a long and happy life to look forward to. So my advice, look at the things you can be thankful for, not what you might find depressing. Look on the bright side, and be an optimist.
Those Dark Days
Chances are that if you are reading this blog, then you are part of the GLBT family and chances are that you have experienced these dark days. Those days when you just want to sit down and cry, or when the only thing that you feel like doing is curling up into a ball and staying in bed. With Thanksgiving this week in America and the Christmas holiday season just around the corner, many of us will be dealing with our families. I love my family, so don’t get me wrong, but for me and many GLBT people dealing with family and the questions about your personal life can be very depressing. I know that I have had these feelings depression and not just at the holiday season and statistics show that most GLBT people experience depression at a greater amount than heterosexual people. Here are a few of those statistics:
* In a study of depression and gay youth, researchers found depression strikes homosexual youth four to five times more severely than other non-gay peers.
* Gay and lesbian youth are 2 to 3 times more likely to attempt suicide than heterosexual young people.
* Several studies suggest that gay men, lesbians and bisexuals appear to have higher rates of some mental disorders compared with heterosexuals, although not to the level of a serious pathology. Discrimination may help fuel these higher rates.
* Higher rates of major depression, generalized anxiety disorder and substance use or dependence in lesbian and gay youth.
* Higher rates of recurrent major depression among gay men.
* Higher rates of anxiety, mood and substance use disorders, and suicidal thoughts among people ages 15 to 54 with same-sex partners.
* Higher use of mental health services in men and women reporting same-sex partners.
The following information is from:
Depression and mental health among GLBT people
Introduction
Everyone gets sad sometimes, and sometimes it feels worse than at other times. Sometimes people feel depressed or sad because something stressful has happened in their lives–like losing a job or the death of a loved one. Even a good thing can make a person feel overwhelmed if it is stressful enough. And sometimes people get depressed for no obvious reason.
Millions of Americans, both gay and straight, transgender and non-transgender, have emotional or psychological problems of some sort during their lives. While we know that homosexuality, bisexuality, and transgender identity are not mental illnesses, the stresses caused by society’s negative messages, condemnation, and violence can sometimes result in depression and other types of emotional difficulties for GLBT persons.
The research on homosexuality is very clear. Homosexuality is neither mental illness nor moral depravity. It is simply the way a minority of our population expresses human love and sexuality. Studies of judgment, stability, reliability, and social and vocational adaptiveness all show that gay men and lesbians function every bit as well as heterosexuals.
— American Psychological Association
What is clinical depression?
Clinical depression is a medical illness that attacks both the mind and the body. It may be far more complex an illness than most people recognize. Depression can cause significant chemical changes to the brain that may make it difficult for many people to overcome it without some time of professional help or treatment.
Depression is not the same as feeling blue or sad–those feelings are a normal part of life. In clinical depression people feel bad for prolonged periods of time–weeks or months. People who are depressed often find it difficult to concentrate. Sometimes they feel like they are on an emotional roller-coaster, sometimes they have trouble getting sad or anxious thoughts out of their minds, and sometimes they just have no energy at all.
Depressed people sometimes have significant weight changes, either up or down. They may have difficulty sleeping, especially in the early morning. Some depressed people sleep more than usual. Sexual interest may decrease.
Untreated, depression can last for months or even years. It may resolve by itself, but it often reoccurs. With treatment, those who suffer from depression often report significant relief within 4-6 weeks.
“Many depressed people feel that they could ‘snap out of it’ if only they could work things out in their head. That’s unrealistic. Depression is an illness. Just as people with AIDS or cancer cannot ‘snap out of’ their illness, people suffering from depression cannot will themselves to recover.”
~ Peter Shalit, MD, PhD
Is clinical depression treatable?
Clinical depression is readily treatable with counseling and medication. Many people suffer needlessly from depression because they don’t seek treatment. They may feel that depression is a personal weakness, or try to cope with their symptoms alone.
If you are feeling depressed, and have been for over a month, you should consider seeking professional help from a gay-positive (or trans-supportive) therapist, doctor, psychiatrist, or other health care provider. There are plenty of mental and other health professionals who will support you and guide you towards being a happy and healthy GLBT person-you deserve nothing less. If you are looking for a gay-supportive counselor, ask friends for referrals or call a local GLBT-friendly mental health agency.
A study performed by the National Institutes of Mental Health showed that after 16 weeks of psychotherapy, 55% of those with mild to moderate depression reported significant improvement. Different people react in different ways to various types of counseling, but cognitive therapy–in which you learn to recognize and replace depressive thinking–can be particularly effective for people experiencing depression.
When there is a chemical component to depression, antidepressant medication can help to correct the chemical imbalance (low levels of brain serotonin and norepinephrine). People with moderate to severe depression are most likely to benefit and improve from the use of medication. Many different types of antidepressants have been developed-if one doesn’t work for you, another one probably will. Some studies have shown that combinations of antidepressant drugs and good psychotherapy may be the best approach.
Depression and suicide
Sometimes people become so depressed that they think about harming or killing themselves. These thoughts and actions can be “passive”–like not wanting to wake up in the morning or wishing to disappear, as well as “active”–like taking pills, cutting oneself or shooting oneself. When suicidal thoughts or acts are present, it’s a good indication that the person may be struggling with a very serious depression.
If you are thinking about hurting yourself or have laid out a suicide plan, please get help immediately. Call a friend, your doctor or your local crisis telephone service. You are not alone and although it may be hard to imagine right now, these feelings will pass and you will be glad you did seek help. If you’re in King County and want to speak with someone right away, call the Crisis Clinic at 206-461-3222 any time of the day or night.
If you have a friend or loved one who is thinking about suicide, talk to them about it openly and help them get some professional help as quickly as possible. Asking about suicide does not make it more likely that a person will harm themselves–often people find it a great relief to finally have someone to talk to.
Tips for handling depression
- Try to accept your depression as an illness. You cannot will the depression away.
- Try to do things that you enjoy–visit friends, get a massage, take a class–to get your mind off what may be contributing to the depression and to focus on things that help you feel better.
- Delay any big decisions or changes that involve work, love or money until you feel better.
- It’s common to be forgetful when you’re depressed, stressed out or anxious. Take notes and make lists. Your memory will improve when you feel better.
- Waking through the night is very common. It’s better to get out of bed until you feel sleepy again. Repeated awakening in the early morning without being able to return to sleep easily is a sign that medical evaluation is needed.
- Mornings are often the worst time. The day usually gets better towards evening.
- Avoid being home alone for long periods–the depressive thoughts can get worse when no one is around.
- Get outside at least once a day for a walk. Light to moderate exercise of any kind can be very helpful to your recovery.
- Don’t try to “medicate” yourself with alcohol, marijuana or other drugs. These drugs may actually make you more depressed than you were to begin with.
What do if someone you love is depressed
It can be difficult to be around a friend who is depressed. You may feel helpless and sometimes angry, particularly if the person is irritable and doesn’t respond when you reach out. Keep reminding yourself that the person is ill, and doesn’t mean to be hurtful or unresponsive.
You can’t relieve clinical depression with love alone any more than you can cure heart disease or diabetes with just love. People who are depressed need professional help, and some require medication.
On the other hand, social support improves treatment results in many serious illnesses including depression. Reach out to your depressed friend so that he or she knows that you care. Call. Send affectionate notes. Invite the person to dinner, movies, ball games, parties, and other events. But keep your expectations low. Even if your friend doesn’t respond, you can be sure that he or she appreciates your attempts.
Who is at risk for clinical depression?
Clinical depression is similar to heart disease and cancer in that everyone is potentially at risk for each. If you have a family history of one of these illnesses, your susceptibility increases. This explains why some people develop a clinical depression only after a large, stressful event, while others develop clinical depression seemingly out of the blue.
Young adults (18-25) are more prone to depression than people in midlife-perhaps because of the particular stressors of separating from one’s family and learning to live on one’s own. Elderly people also have higher rates of depression than people in midlife.
People who abuse alcohol may become depressed–and excessive use of alcohol often indicates that a person is “self-medicating” a depression. But alcohol and related drugs like valium and barbiturates are themselves depressants, and just make problems worse.
Depression screening questionnaires
This screen questionnaire is not designed to provide an actual diagnosis of depression. For that, you will need a complete clinical evaluation by a psychiatrist or other health care professional.
- I am unable to do the things I used to do.
- I feel hopeless about the future.
- I can’t make decisions.
- I no longer enjoy the things I used to find fun.
- I am losing or gaining weight.
- I get tired for no reason.
- I am sleeping too much, or too little.
- I feel worthless and unhappy.
- I become irritable or anxious.
- I think about dying or killing myself.
If you answered yes to 5 or more of these questions, and you have felt this way everyday for several weeks, there is a good chance you are suffering from depression and should see a psychiatrist, a therapist, or other health care professional.
If you answered yes to question 10, you should seek help immediately, regardless of your answer to any other questions.
Click here for another online depression screening questionaire.
LGBT Mental Health Resources:
• GLBT National Hotline: 1-888-THE-GLNH (843-4564)
• Rainbow Youth Hotline: 1-877-LGBT-YTH (1-877-542-8984)
• LGBT Suicide Prevention Hotline: www.TheTrevorProject.org or 1-800-850-8078
• NAMI: www.nami.org or 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)
• Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays: www.pflag.org
• Rainbow Heights Club: www.rainbowheights.org
• Association of Gay and Lesbian Psychiatrists: (215) 222-2800 www.aglp.org
• GayHealth.com: www.gayhealth.com
• National Foundation for Depressive Illness: www.depression.org
• Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance: (800) 826-3632 or www.dbsalliance.org
• American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: (888) 333-2377 or www.afsp.org
‘Mama Wu’ unlikely hero for homosexuals in China
Wu Youjian, right, chats with another parent of gay child at a recent event at Shanghai Pride, a month-long celebration of gay culture in China’s largest city.
STORY HIGHLIGHTS
- ‘Mama Wu’ has earned fame by publicly defending her homosexual son
- Homosexuals face deep cultural prejudices and pressure to marry
- About 30 percent of Chinese homosexuals have attempted suicide
- Although not illegal, homosexual venues regularly shut down in China
Beijing, China (CNN) — When Wu Youjian’s teenage son told her on a spring night in 1999 that he was gay, Wu did something rarely heard of in China.
“I told him, there’s nothing wrong with liking boys and it’s no big deal,” said the 63-year-old retired magazine editor.
Five years later, when her son discussed his sexuality on local television in the southern metropolis of Guangzhou, Wu made another groundbreaking decision. She became what state media calls the first Chinese parent to go on television in support of her gay child.
Zheng Yuantao, 30, knows how lucky he is to have such a mother.
“Many of my gay friends are afraid of going home during holidays, because their parents would ask about girlfriends and press them to get married,” he said.
“I grew up in a very open-minded family,” he added. “I didn’t have too much of a struggle about my sexuality.”
Wu now devotes her time and energy to speaking up for gay acceptance by family and society. Her small frame belies her big role in China’s gay community, where she is affectionately called “Mama Wu.”
She taught herself to use a computer three years ago and now writes a blog that has clocked more than 2.2 million hits. She also tweets frequently, has launched a hotline and founded the country’s first PFLAG – Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays – group in her hometown.
“I just followed my instinct and my love for my son,” Wu said.
For other Chinese parents in her situation, however, instinct usually means a deep sense of shame. Many refuse to face the reality and some sever ties with their gay children. Others scheme to break up their children’s relationships. Some may insist on psychiatric treatments, while others may threaten to commit suicide if their children don’t change.
‘Mama Wu’ inspires other Chinese parents of gay children
“In China, we consider carrying on the family line of paramount importance, but we don’t value the happiness of individuals,” said Li Yinhe, a sociologist with the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences.
Societal pressure cooker
Suicide is high among Chinese homosexuals, Li said, with some surveys saying as many as 30 percent of gay youth attempt to take their lives. That trend mirrors the United States, where a spate of suicides by gay adolescents in recent months has shaken the nation.
Most gay men in China still succumb to social pressure and marry women. It once meant heterosexual marriages, often with children, Li said. Now, gay community activists say a small but growing number of young gay men in big cities are tying the knot with lesbians to both placate families and maintain their lifestyles.
Li conducted China’s first comprehensive surveys on gay men. She published her findings in a 1992 book, which Wu credited for shaping her views on homosexuality.
While society at large has loosened up on homosexuality, Li said, family pressure on gay people remains strong because of deep-rooted Confucian ideas and the government’s one-child policy – making Wu’s words and actions all the more powerful.
“No one would listen to an outsider, but she is not – she is a mother whose only son is gay,” Li said. “Others would wonder, if she can handle it so well, why can’t I.”
It’s not all accolades for Wu, however. Vitriolic attacks often dog her online. On a popular video-sharing site, under a clip paying tribute to her achievements, a recent comment accused her of “leading our youth to a place filthier than a brothel” and “hastening the moral death of our already-sick society.”
Wu brushes such verbal assaults aside. Her son, often a target himself along with Wu, understands why.
“It’s not about how many people she can change,” Zheng said. “The important thing is that she is out there helping real people every day.”
Gay venues shut down
Homosexuality is not illegal in China, and in 2001 it was also removed from the country’s list of officially recognized mental disorders. But it remains largely a taboo topic on state-run media.
China mom becomes advocate for gay son
No one would listen to an outsider, but she is not – she is a mother whose only son is gay –Li Yinhe, Chinese Academy of Social Sciences
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Police sometimes shut down gay venues when high profile events are held. Gay rights advocates reported raids on gay clubs, saunas and cruising spots ahead of the Summer Olympics and the annual parliament sessions in Beijing in the past.
Officials have also pulled the plug – often at the last minute – on gay-themed events, including the country’s first gay pageant last January.
Li, the sociologist who also serves as a government adviser, has tried to cement gay rights in Chinese law. She submitted proposals to legalize same-sex marriage in 2003, 2005 and 2006. None have succeeded so far – and she admits her goal probably won’t be realized anytime soon.
“Gays are minorities in society,” she said. “People just don’t think this issue is important enough, compared to national priorities like economic development.”
Wu stresses the social and non-political nature of her activities, highlighting official approval and state media reports in her speeches. Her group also joins the effort in HIV/AIDS prevention, a gay-related cause promoted by the government.
She has picked up pace in spreading the message of acceptance, giving lectures and hosting seminars across the nation.
At a recent PFLAG gathering in Beijing, Wu, sporting a rainbow scarf and speaking in a calm but firm tone, addressed a packed hotel conference room of about 100 people, with her son and his boyfriend in attendance.
Her voice cracked, however, when she mentioned how parental intransigence drove a married young gay man, who had sought her help, to take his life.
“We have to give them hope,” Wu said, quoting iconic gay American politician Harvey Milk.
Wu says she constantly reminds other parents about one basic fact.
“It doesn’t matter if our children are gay or straight – just like it doesn’t matter if they are left-handed or right-handed,” she said. “They are always our children.”
Thousands of blog posts and phone calls later, Wu has compiled her stories in a new book – titled “Love Is the Most Beautiful Rainbow” – and vows to continue her effort.
“I have only one child, but so many call me Mama,” she said.
This article was originally written and published by Steven Jiang, CNN on November 16, 2010 1:36 p.m. EST
Blanche DuBois
Sometimes I feel like Blanche DuBois in Tennessee William’s A Streetcar Named Desire when Blanche is led off to a mental hospital by a matron and a kind-hearted doctor. After a brief struggle followed by the administration of a sedative, Blanche smilingly acquiesces as she devolves into her fantasy life, addressing the doctor with the most famous and poignant line in the play:
‘I have always depended on the kindness of strangers.’
Thank goodness that strangers can be occasionally kind. It is one of the great things about living in the South. We are so often taught to be hospitable that it eventually wears off on most of us and being kind comes as second nature. So commit a random act of kindness today and make someone’s life a little better for just a moment at least.
(Yes, I realize that this message is not in the context of the play in the least, but it is one of my favorite lines in any movie or play.)
Stop the Carnage
Remembering Brandon Bitner (1996 – 2010)
Brandon Bitner was buried on Wednesday, November 10. The 14-year-old high school freshman from rural Middleburg, Pennsylvania committed suicide by running into the path of a tractor trailer. He left a note that he wanted to draw attention to bullying. Brandon was a talented musician, who aspired to be a classical violinist. According to the note, he was tired of being called “faggot” and “sissy.” According to his mother, Tammy Simpson, “He was the most wonderful child anyone could ask for.”
“We need to stop the carnage of gay teen suicides,” said Malcolm Lazin, Executive Director, Equality Forum, a national LGBT civil rights organization headquartered in Philadelphia.
In October 2010, Tyler Clementi, a Rutgers University freshman who committed suicide by jumping off the George Washington Bridge, brought national attention to the epidemic of gay teen suicides that resulted from bullying. It is estimated that about 500 gay teens each year or 40 gay teens per month take their lives as a result of homophobia.
“In most public, middle and high schools, homophobic taunts are hurled without any disciplinary action,” stated Lazin. “Sticks and stones will break your bones, but names can really harm you.”
Currently, there are two bills in Congress, the Safe Schools Improvement Act and the Student Non-Discrimination Act. “Preventing bullying is a non-partisan issue,” said Lazin. “Congress needs to unanimously pass the Safe Schools Improvement Act and the Student Non-Discrimination Act to make resoundingly clear that our nation demands safe schools for all children.”
Equality Forum produced the documentary film “JIM IN BOLD” (www.jiminbold.com) about the impact of homophobia on gay youth. The film centers on James Wheeler, a 19-year-old talented youth who committed suicide. Jim was surrounded in his high school’s locker room and urinated on. There was no disciplinary action. The award-winning film has been screened at over 50 film festivals and at the annual meetings of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and the American Psychiatric Association.

Veterans Day
John McCrae: In Flanders Fields (1915)
In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.
We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie
In Flanders fields.
Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.
Veterans Day is an annual United States holiday honoring military veterans. A federal holiday, it is observed on November 11. It is also celebrated as Armistice Day or Remembrance Day in other parts of the world, falling on November 11, the anniversary of the signing of the Armistice that ended World War I. (Major hostilities of World War I were formally ended at the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month of 1918 with the German signing of the Armistice.)
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Especially, please remember all of the gay and lesbian service men and women who have served and too often died in silence about their sexuality, yet served their country with as much élan as any other soldier. Hopefully soon, GLBT members of the military can serve openly and we can celebrate their service to the fullest extent of their deserved equality. We need to rid America of DADT.



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