The Trials and Tribulations of Moving Prep

No matter how diligently you plan or how prepared you think you are, things rarely go as smoothly as they should. Moving prep has been no exception. Last Friday a week ago (March 25th), I emailed my new apartment manager with questions about setting up the electricity in my name. I could not call her as the only phone number I had went directly to automatic voicemail. Saturday, Sunday, and Monday came and went with no response. I emailed again on Tuesday. With no response by Thursday (March 31st), I took it upon myself to call the power company to set up my account with the hope I was doing the right thing. It turned out this was an easy process. After a five-minute conversation, I had power set to turn on the morning of the next day, April 1st, the day my lease began.

That same morning, I finally received a reply from the apartment manager. She said she had seen my email from a week ago and had tried calling and texting but had not gotten a response from me. I emailed that I had not received any texts or phone calls and gave her my personal phone number just to clarify. It turned out she had been leaving messages and texts on my office phone while I had been on vacation! I also told her I had already taken care of the electricity, and it should have been turned on that morning.

She called a few minutes later. Apparently, things were not going as planned on her end. The previous tenant had not moved out on the date she’d given as her vacate notice. There was a problem with the apartment where the old tenant was moving, and she decided to stay a few extra weeks without telling anyone. When she finally did move out, she had left some furniture that needed to be removed. Also, it quickly became apparent that one or both of her cats had been urinating on the carpet in the second bedroom. The apartment company had shampooed the carpets and was shampooing them again that morning trying to get the smell out of the carpet.

As you know, I had planned to go by the apartment on Friday to move in a few things especially into the second bedroom. That was not possible now. The apartment manager asked me to come by on Sunday (I had to work Saturday) to verify whether I could smell urine in the second bedroom. If the smell was still there, they would remove the carpeting, reseal the floor underneath, and lay down new carpeting. She assured me that my planned move-in day of April 6th was still good, but the second bedroom might not be completely ready if the carpeting needed replacement. I did go to the apartment yesterday. There was a strong odor of cat urine in the second bedroom. I told the apartment manager the carpet would need to be replaced. They are ripping out the old carpet today. She is scheduling the carpet people to come as soon as they can to lay the new carpet.

The rest of the apartment is in pretty good shape. I measured everything so I could decide ahead of time where I want to place my furniture. I will have to buy new blinds for the windows. The ones that are there will not do. The apartment’s maintenance person will install all the blinds; I just need to buy them. I set up the wi-fi and cable box although the cable box installation won’t finish until I bring in my TV. Otherwise, the apartment is move-in ready for this Wednesday.

All that’s left now is finishing packing up my current apartment. To be continued…


Inner Peace


Inner Peace

Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

 John 14:27

There is no more extraordinary gift than learning to feel at home in yourself. You can change everything about the world around you, but if you haven’t done the work on yourself, you will still feel imprisoned in your own mind. I think that is one of the primary reasons I encourage anyone to come out. The closet is a place for us to hide the internal war of who we are and to hide our inner self, and that internal war does not lend itself to inner peace. It is a war in which far too many LGBTQ+ individuals become casualties. Acceptance is the only weapon we can use to win this war.

Every time we check our phones or look at the news, the future seems increasingly uncertain. Whether it’s global conflicts such as the war raging in Ukraine, or the world-wide pandemic caused by COVID-19.  The uncertainty also extends to our very being as LGBTQ+ individuals. As more and more states attack LGBTQ+ rights and our very existence, we may find it challenging to find peace amid these distressing circumstances. Florida’s “Don’t Say Gay” bill was just signed into law by the governor of that state. Republican lawmakers in Arizona, Alabama, Indiana, Kentucky, Oklahoma, New Hampshire, and South Dakota introduced at least nine measures this year that target transgender and nonbinary youths, such as their ability to participate in sports, receive gender-affirming care, or use the bathroom. There are constant movements in states dominated by anti-LGBTQ+ politicians to reverse gay marriage. It’s all extraordinarily disconcerting and adds to the internal struggles of many LGBTQ+ individuals.

This uncertainty has also crept into our daily lives, raising worries about our jobs, finances, friends, families, etc. Even as LGBTQ+ believers who know and love the Lord, we may find it challenging to truly be at peace during these times as people who claim they know and love the Lord attack our very being. For instance, take right-wing QAnon conspiracy theorist and U.S. Representative Lauren Boebert (R-Colorado), who on Friday asked Twitter to explain to her why the law does not “require” LGBTQ+ Americans to wait until they are 21 years old to come out.  

The ignorance is astounding! Sadly, this wasn’t even a sick April Fool’s joke, although Boebert is a fool on April 1st and any other of the 364 days of the year, for that matter.

Even with all of these assaults on our identity, the Bible assures us that the Lord has promised true inner peace. Two verses in the Gospel of John reveal the source of this lasting peace. In John 14:27, Jesus says, “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” In this verse, Jesus promised to give us Hispeace. As the Prince of Peace, He is the unique source of true peace, which is altogether different from what the world gives. No matter how impossible our outward circumstances may seem, we can enjoy true peace from Jesus, and we do not need to be troubled or afraid. John 16:33 says, “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” Jesus never promised that we wouldn’t experience difficulties in our lives. He plainly said, “In the world you will have tribulation.” Although we’re saved, we still live in this world full of suffering and distress. But these words from Jesus should bring us comfort, assuring us that even during our trials, we may have peace.

How do we practically experience this true and lasting peace in our daily lives? The apostle Paul gives us the key in Philippians 4:6-7: “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Social isolation, discrimination, job insecurity, financial obligations, and many other things fill us with anxiety. We can’t escape our problems, but we can experience the peace of God during them. By turning our hearts to God through prayer, we connect with Him, which results in something marvelous. When we have fellowship with God, we’re revived and refreshed. As we petition Him concerning our needs, God infuses us with Himself as peace. We’re turned from worrying about our situation to thanking Him. Our environment may not change, but we’re changed. The peace of God guards our hearts and thoughts, saving us from anxiety.

As we continue to live under trying circumstances, we can enjoy God’s peace at any time. Anxious thoughts may come to us throughout the day, but we have the key! We can turn our hearts to Him and pray, call on His name, sing to Him, or simply talk to Him. Through our fellowship with Him, God becomes our true inner peace and rest, the much-needed antidote to our easily troubled soul. 


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Moment of Zen: A Cat’s Love

People who don’t like cats often complain that they are unloving or aloof. I’ve always had very loving cats. My first cat Calico used to lay beside me when I was sick. My previous cat, Victoria, would insist I take a nap with her every day when I’d get home, laying beside me with her front paws and head on my chest. Isabella may not be a cuddler, but she’s almost always nearby or laying on my hip or staring out the window wanting me to come inside (see the last pic). Cats show affection in their own way, and we love them for it.


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Winter is still hangin on. We’re supposed to get 1-3” of snow tonight.


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Feeling Sick

I was feeling a bit sick last night. I had a low fever, a headache, and a prickly, burning sensation on the back of my neck. I’m not sure what caused the issue on the back of my neck, but I suspect the fever and headache had to do with some sinus trouble. Anyway, I went to bed early last night.


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Dentist

About a month ago, I spent two hours in a dental chair so my dentist could prepare a tooth for a crown. At that time, he put a temporary crown on the tooth while the permanent one was made. Yesterday, I went to get the permanent crown. At the first visit, they’d numbed me up, took an impression, did a lot of drilling, took another impression, and then put in the temporary crown. Yesterday’s procedure was much simpler and only took about thirty minutes. He didn’t have to numb me, which I hate, but that meant there was a modicum of pain associated with yesterday’s procedure. He had to remove the temporary crown which is not exactly pleasant. Then, he had to clean up the tooth and prepare it for the permanent crown, which was popped into place. Easy peasy, or so you’d think. In fact, the procedure was pretty easy. However, when you already have nerve damage in that area (i.e., trigeminal neuralgia), it doesn’t take much to set those nerves on edge. By the time I got home, I had a raging headache that lasted all night.

If any of my readers are dentists, forgive me for what I’m about to say, but how can someone get paid so much to torture people all day long? I’m sure there are some people who don’t think of the dentist as a torturous event, but they wouldn’t be me. Those same people probably don’t have trouble teeth like I do. I’ve always had soft teeth. It’s hereditary in my family, so no matter what I do to take care of my teeth (brushing, flossing, etc.) I still have cavities broken teeth. Thankfully, skilled dentists can fix all of that, but it’s still torture to have it done. I like my dentist a lot, and I’ve had some great dentists in my life, but just because they are nice people doesn’t mean I don’t feel like they torture me. I know they usually do whatever they can to make it as painless as possible, but I still hate going to the dentist. Whether it’s a routine cleaning and exam or a filling or a crown, I always leave in pain. Oh well, what can you do?