Oops!

I forgot to schedule a post for today before I went to bed last night. I wanted to post something before I started getting ready for work. Thank goodness it’s Friday. I have a pretty busy day today: classes, tours, emails, and phone calls. I’ll be glad when 4 pm gets here, and I can head home.

About Joe

I began my life in the South and for five years lived as a closeted teacher, but am now making a new life for myself as an oral historian in New England. I think my life will work out the way it was always meant to be. That doesn't mean there won't be ups and downs; that's all part of life. It means I just have to be patient. I feel like October 7, 2015 is my new birthday. It's a beginning filled with great hope. It's a second chance to live my life…not anyone else's. My profile picture is "David and Me," 2001 painting by artist Steve Walker. It happens to be one of my favorite modern gay art pieces. View all posts by Joe

16 responses to “Oops!

  • britt69isme

    Great tattoo! I have a rose in about the same place 🙂

  • Michael Brodeur

    You got a littele behind in your post, did you?!

  • Michael Brodeur

    Little behind

  • Jim

    Joe,I’ve been going over your blog for a few hours now and have come to the conclusion that it is a piece of work; an amazing piece of work. If you wear your wallet where this guys tattoo is you can get sciatica. Wear your wallet in the front pocket. I haven’t had sciatica since I switched. Also, massage helps move the pain up the leg to the spine then it goes away. I have decided you are not gay. You don’t have the time to be such. Slow down 5%.

    • Joe

      I’m definitely gay. 😂 I’m glad you’re enjoying reading my blog.

      • Jim Thibeau

        Joe, I know you are very smart and know way more than I do, especially about migraines but I just read an article from Advil.ca/migraines/symptoms that was very informative to me. It talks about the different kinds and triggers. Yours sound like chronic migraines that can be triggered by depression, anxiety, too much computer use, sleep deprivation, stress etc. May be time to evaluate your masterpiece of a blog and cut it shorter. Just trying to help from afar. I used to go to a place called Violi’s in Messina N.Y. Just above you. Went to the bathtub races in Lake Placid and crossed Lake Champlain a few time. Violi’s changed its name but it was an excellent Italian restaurant back in the 70s. Yes, I’m older but not wiser. Jim

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      • Jim Thibeau

        Joe, Joe, I can’t take it anymore. You know I’m reading your blog backwards so my comments may seam out of place. Black cats are the best especially if you get a mute Siamese, a cross from a Siamese and a run of the mill cat. They are very smart, loveable and true to their owner. Now, I’m going to take a page from your mother’s playbook. You need to be married (to a guy who understands you and is willing to support your needs, and you his) and I want you to have three children by 2025. Now get busy. If that is you in the hospital gown you should have been married 15 years ago. You’re a catch. Love that you are still true to your deep faith. I had a friend in LongBeach that told me not to get involved in that sh__. He was wrong. Pete B. still believes as do you and I. Blog less to see if all that screen time is a trigger. That aura you saw was me scrubbing the floor. Hope the incoming storm doesn’t damage you too much. You need someone there to give you physical support when you’re sick. Shining out, plodding on. Wish I could put it down. Jim

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      • Joe

        Jim, first of all, I’m not in any of the pictures on my blog. Second, my cat before Isabella was half Himalayan and half tabby cat. She was such a loving cat. She was mostly a gray tabby but with a hint of the marks and coloring of a Siamese. She certainly had the yeow of a Siamese. I still miss her, but I’m very thankful for Isabella, my beautiful black cat. She has her own ways of being living, just different.

        I hope one day to find that man you say I deserve. It would be nice.

        As for the screen time, as long as I wear my blue light reading glasses, I can tell I don’t have the same eye strain that can trigger my headaches. As my eyesight gets worse, I have to rely on my reading glasses more and more.

      • Jim Thibeau

        I’m glad you are taking care of yourself as best you can. I’ll relax now and worry less. Have a stress less day and follow your own advice. You are an excellent, natural writer. Had a few hours in Alabama, next to Rome where I had friends. They took me to a place where the unclaimed luggage gets sent. Got a couple of very expensive tennis rackets there for next to nothing. Went to a “farmer’s” market where people were carrying out chickens by their feet and snakes in cages. I’m used to vegetables at the market but they showed me a grand time. Hope you don’t mind me writing now and then as I don’t hear well so computers are more effective for me. Good luck this week. I’m passing all your migraine info to my niece who had to quit her job in the military because of migraines. I don’t know how you do it. Jim

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      • Joe

        North Alabama is a strange place all it’s own. My dad used to love to got to the unclaimed baggage place. I’ve never been. I’m from south Alabama, by the way.

        I hope what I’ve written about my migraines helps your niece. It’s one of the main reasons I discuss it. You can find all kinds of information about migraines but not that many personal stories that people can identify with.

      • Jim Thibeau

        Shame on you! Making an old man cry during your sexual exploits/religious discussion blog. Joe, you are exceptionally wise beyond measure. Do you pick a topic then just expound it? Amazing flow. I know you are from the gospel belt but how did you get so smart on religion? You lived it as a youth? I’m going to see Avatar next week with my mask on. Haven’t stopped wearing it in public even on my walks in the country. I’m boosted to the nines and “flued” to death but I still protect myself. It feels funny going backwards because I already know the outcome but it’s like being in the center of a tornado that just sucks you in. You should put it in book form someday as your legacy to mankind. You dissect passages from the bible very well, some bias, to be sure but it allows one to think, ponder and explore your mindset. Get to sleep. Hump day soon. Get some much needed rest. I used to take my fiorinal C1/4 as soon as I felt the pre-migraine headache come on and was able to prevent most of them but I believe it was an opioid. Have a good week and I’ll leave you alone for a bit to get you off this machine. Jim

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      • Joe

        I do pick topics, but I get inspiration from a number of sources. Growing up in the Church of Christ, we learned the Bible pretty well, but most of my knowledge is self taught. I tend to think I let God guide me. I wanted to understand how Jesus would want me to live and also to understand my sexuality. So, I read a lot. It also helps that when I taught World History, there was a lot about religion that we discussed. What do they say: you learn more teaching a subject than you do as a student?

        I am very glad you enjoy my blog. It’s honestly a lot of random thoughts, sometimes I come up with some good. Sometimes, there’s not much substance. 😂

      • Jim Thibeau

        Throw me to the lions if you must but I grew up Catholic with very little bible reading. Our teaching was more by rote. But it gave me a good foundation. I went to church every day as an altar boy because we lived but a 5 minute walk from church. My parents didn’t attend but I was only 3 minutes away from a catholic school so I went there and thoroughly enjoyed my education. I went to Raleigh for my BSc, minoring in business and economics and spent all of my life on the business end. I continued to attend church till about 30 when I no longer felt the spirit. At 48 I became a Mormon and studied the bible every day. I’ve been through it from front to back about 8 times and have studied it at the university level. However, my carnal side (earthly side) took over and I left 3 years ago at the beginning of the pandemic. I suppose, besides the way you write, I identify with your religious point of view so strongly, like a binding cord. He knows the heart and He knows how yours is. My education was more grounded in science, biology and business where yours is in the fine arts. I used to write a great deal of poetry in my younger years but now I leave that to you young folk. You do an excellent job and I look forward to finish your blog before my leaves turn brown and become compost. We have much in common. Jim

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      • Jim Thibeau

        Always good stuff. Stop being so humble. You are right. When I had to teach in our biology program I used to spend 6 hours researching for a 45 minute class. Even so at church. 1 teaspoon of red pepper flakes in the gumbo!!!! I use 3 flakes in my spaghetti sauce. Joe, I’ll tell you a little story to help you with your perspective on life as a gay man. I used to be in charge of Missionaries and missionary work at the local level for about 20 years. One young missionary from D.C. was raised as Jehovah Witness but converted to Mormonism at 18. At nineteen he went on his mission. It came time for him to go home after his 2 year service. When he got home his parents had moved with no forwarding address. He had to go live with an aunt while he went to University. Your mom has not disowned you, hopefully did not kick you out and has not let you go. She still wants you in her life under her terms. You are an adult now. Try and have a talk with her. Lay down your rules only if you need to. Her house, her rules. But don’t go back to the way it was but whatever you do, she is your mother, and you have to honor her. Follow the fourth and don’t break the fifth. But live life on your terms now. You’ve earned it. You’ve come a long way baby but you still have a little more way to go. You said in one of your blogs that love will heal. Go for it. Jim

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