
Monthly Archives: November 2024
Monday, Again

It’s Monday morning, and as usual, I wish I was still in bed. Isabella let me sleep until a little after 5 am, but I did not want to get up to feed her. However, I did get up to feed her and to fix my own breakfast. It should be an easy day at work today. I will be the only person there. My coworkers are taking vacations today, one all week and the other possibly the whole week. We will only be open today, Tuesday, and half a day on Wednesday. The student’s on campus are gone for Thanksgiving, so that means we won’t have any student workers this week either. I doubt we will even have any visitors, although one or two might trickle in. Hopefully, it will be a quiet week. With that being said, I wish that I too had the whole week off and could just stay at home and go back to bed.
Have a great week, everyone!
A Heart of Gratitude

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
— 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18
In the United States, we celebrate Thanksgiving on the fourth Thursday of November. In Canada, Thanksgiving is celebrated on the second Monday in October, and Germany celebrates it on the first Sunday of October. As those of us in the US gather to celebrate Thanksgiving this Thursday, let us take a moment to reflect on the true essence of gratitude. Thanksgiving is not merely a day or a meal; it is the spirit of the heart, a discipline of recognizing God’s goodness in every season of life. Thanksgiving is a time to reflect on our blessings and express gratitude. However, as believers, giving thanks should not just be an annual tradition—it should be a way of life. James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” When we pause to thank God, we align our hearts with His, focusing not on what we lack but on His abundant provision.
For most of November, many Americans have not felt much to be thankful for after the results of the presidential election. Many of us have been depressed at the attitudes and actions of our fellow Americans and have suffered intense anxiety over what will happen over the next four years. With every announcement of a new cabinet appointment, the situation seems increasingly more dire. The inmates are gearing up to run the asylum. So, how can we give thanks when life feels difficult? The answer lies in trusting God. Gratitude flows from a heart that recognizes God’s goodness and faithfulness, even when we do not fully understand His plans. When we focus on His unchanging nature, we can find reasons to rejoice, even in the hardest seasons. Psalm 107:1 tells us to “Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever.” Remember that, in Christ, we have an eternal hope that surpasses our present challenges. In 2 Corinthians 4:17–18, Paul told the Corinthians, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So, we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
Paul encourages us in 1 Thessalonians 5:18,“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” It is easy to give thanks when life is good, but true thanksgiving is found in trusting God even in hardship. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” When we remember that God works all things for our good, we can thank Him even in trials, knowing He is refining us. Gratitude is a powerful testimony of faith. Jesus demonstrated this when He healed the ten lepers in Luke 17:11–19. Only one returned to thank Him, and Jesus said, “Your faith has made you well.” Thanksgiving sets us apart as people who recognize and respond to God’s grace.
This Thanksgiving, take time to reflect on God’s blessings, even in areas where you might not normally think to give thanks. For example, thank Him for lessons learned through challenges, for His provision in times of need, and for the gift of salvation through Jesus. Over the coming year, take time each day to count your blessings, whether big or small. Write down three things you are thankful for each day. Share your thanks with God in prayer and with others in encouragement. Let us remember the words of David in Psalm 9:1, “I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart; I will recount all of Your wonderful deeds.” Thanksgiving is not a fleeting moment but a way of life that honors God and transforms us. As we give thanks today, may our gratitude draw us closer to the Giver of every good gift.
Moment of Zen: The Black Party

I did go to the Burly Bears Black Party. It was fun. There was a lot of eye candy, especially this one bartender. At times, there were three bartenders, and they were all hot. But, the one who fixed my drink was without a doubt the hottest guy there. He looked similar to the guy in the last pic, except he had a patch of chest hair between his pecs. I had fun people watching, but it was very crowded and loud. I stayed for a while and then decided to just go home.








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This guy looks a bit like the bartender.
Tonight…Maybe…Possibly 🤔

As long as I am feeling well and get up the courage to actually do it, I plan to go out tonight and have a little fun. Since 2007, there has been a get together of gay men once a month called Burly Bears in Burlington. It’s basically a dance party at one of the bars. Burlington has LGBTQ+ events in a regular basis, and they are becoming more common in Vermont outside of Burlington as well. Most of that is centered on drag, which I love, and geared towards the LGBTQ+ community, which is great in itself. However, as far as for events geared towards GBTQ+ men, Burly Bears is the only thing out there in Vermont. Don’t get me wrong, inclusivity is great, but I also think there is a time when GBTQ+ men want to be surrounded but other men and not also surrounded by lesbians, which outnumber the GBTQ+ men in Vermont, at least 2 to 1.
I haven’t been in a long while and I would love to go to the Burly Bears event tonight. I just get nervous and, you might even say, cowardly about going alone to an event like this. I can be a very shy, nervous, and awkward person. When I host guests at the museum, give tours, or teach classes, I am not particularly shy or nervous, though I am probably still a little awkward. I am always afraid when going to events like the Burly Bears that I won’t get up the courage to talk to anyone and no one will come up and talk to me. I know I probably sound stupid about this, and I should just get over myself. I am not the most confident person most of the time, and, let’s face it, gay men can be a little cliquish, especially gay men in Burlington, Vermont. The city of Burlington tends to separate itself from the rest of the state.
Anyway, tonight the theme for Burly Bears is the annual Black Party. As described on Facebook: “In the spirit of New York, Miami, and Montreal: It’s our Burly Bear Black Party! Pull out those black shirts, shorts, and Ts! Get those leather vests, jocks, pup masks, boots, and harnesses out.” Wearing all black is not an issue for me. I have a lot of black clothes in my wardrobe, so that’s easy peasy. Putting myself out there is the difficult part. I have to admit, I loved black leather and that whole part of the gay culture, though I have never ventured much into it myself. I just need to make myself go, because I know once I am there, I’ll be ok, and if I’m not, I can always leave. There’s only a $5 cover charge and all proceeds go to Outright VT, so if I just go and leave, it’ll only cost me $5 that will go to a good cause anyway. Once I’m there though, I’ll get a drink and, hopefully, have a good time. If nothing else, they always have hot bartenders working at these events, and who doesn’t love a sexy, flirty bartender?
If you will, send some encouraging energy my way, because I really would like to get out more, be more of a part of the LGBTQ+ community in Vermont, and meet some new people.
Feeling Better

I went to work yesterday and completed a few tasks that needed to be done, but by lunchtime, my migraine was back with a vengeance. I ended up going home at lunch and sleeping most of the afternoon, which helped my migraine. Thankfully, I am feeling better this morning, but if you have migraines, you understand what I call a shadow migraine, also known as a hangover migraine. The technical term is a postdrome migraine. For me, I feel a bit achy (though not as bad as the main migraine), like I am in a brain fog (things just seem to take longer to process), and a feeling of being physically drained. For some people, a postdrome migraine feels like having hangover. I’ve had my share of hangovers over the years, and for me, a postdrome headache is not nearly as bad. It just feels like a dull headache in the background.
The migraine I’ve had this week was one caused by weather changes. The migraine started along with some light rain and got worse as a stronger weather front moved into the area. I often get a migraine either as the weather front moves into or when the precipitation begins. This one seems to have started before the rain began. It is supposed to start raining this afternoon and go through tomorrow morning before starting again late tomorrow night. On Saturday, we are expecting a mix of snow and rain before it becomes only snow on Sunday.
I don’t know what all these weather changes will mean for my migraines, but I am hoping it won’t be too bad. I am planning to have a friend over for Thanksgiving next week, and I have a lot to do to get ready. However, if I have a rough migraine weekend, I may just not be able to host Thanksgiving. I really want to because I love all the cooking, but I can only do so much when my migraines are causing issues.












