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Moment of Zen: Coffee

On a morning like this, my moment of zen is coffee!  It’s cold and rainy, and I just didn’t want to get out of bed.

Why I Love Baseball!

I find baseball uniforms sexy.  What can I say!   I also find the body type of a baseball player to be my ideal of a near perfect physique. Anybody else feel the same way?

May is National Masturbation Month

In case you were wondering, May is National Masturbation Month. The celebration of May as National Masturbation Month began in 1995 in San Francisco as a response to the forced resignation of then U.S. Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders.
After a speech at the United Nations World AIDS Day in 1994, an audience member asked Elders about masturbation’s potential for discouraging early sexual activity. She answered,”I think it is something that is part of human sexuality and a part of something that perhaps should be taught.”
That was the end of Elders’ career as America’s first black Surgeon General, but the spark for National Masturbation Month. Offended by Elders’ ouster, the ever progressive, pro-sex staff of San Francisco’s sex toy and education company Good Vibrations decided to find a way to keep the focus on Elders’ unjust firing, and to bring talk about masturbation into the mainstream in just the way Elders had envisioned.
Realizing that large number of folks lacked support and advice to help them enjoy the simple, basic act of masturbation, Good Vibrations sought to provide support, advice, and reassurance for people looking to open their own personal sexual horizons.
And so was born National Masturbation Month. Among the first steps Good Vibrations took was to promote masturbation as healthy, safe and natural way to express one’s sexuality, thereby removing much of the shame and stigma have so long colored the act masturbation.
So, is it true, as so many believe that masturbation is so commonplace, natural, pleasurable and healthy that “ninety-eight percent of us masturbate, and the other two percent are liars?” If so, why do we need an entire month to educate people on something they’re already enjoying?
The answer is twofold: First, to help those already enjoying themselves to delve further. Second, and most importantly, it looks like plenty of people might still benefit from some encouragement and education.
A recent cross sample study of American adults asked the question: “On average, over the past 12 months, how often did you masturbate?” Only 38 percent of women said they’d masturbated at all during the past year, while 61 percent of men had done so.
2007 article in Sexual and Relationship Therapy notes that masturbation may help men improve immune system function, build resistance to prostate gland infection, promote overall prostate health. Moreover, Australian researchers have shown that frequent masturbation may lower a man’s risk of developing prostate cancer.
A survey of men found the more frequently a man masturbates between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to get prostate cancer. In fact, those who masturbated more than five times a week were one-third less likely to develop prostate cancer.
These findings were the subject of a 2003 Doonesbury panel by Pulitzer Prize-winning Garry Trudeau. In the panel, one character alludes to masturbation as “self-dating.”  Nearly half of the 700 papers which normally syndicate Doonesbury did not to run that strip, proving that public discussion of masturbation is still a thorny issue for some, and perhaps attesting to the need for an observance like National Masturbation Month. 
Earlier studies have shown that rates of masturbation are higher for both men and women with higher education, more frequent sexual thoughts, sexual experimentation before puberty, and more lifetime sexual partners. Moreover, masturbation has documented physical benefits for both men and women, to say nothing of likely emotional and psychological benefits.

A Brave New World

Before Monday, I had never heard of Jason Collins. I’m not a huge pro sports fan, though I do love college sports, so it shouldn’t be a surprise that I was not familiar with him. After his announcement, I did some reading about him. In case you are not familiar with the story, NBA player Jason Collins took the sports world by surprise when he came out publicly on Monday, becoming the first openly gay athlete ever in major U.S. professional sports. Collins wrote in a Sports Illustrated op-ed, “I didn’t set out to be the first openly gay athlete playing in a major American team sport. But since I am, I’m happy to start the conversation.”

So far, Collins’ announcement has been received with much support, which is fantastic. One can only hope that this will influence the next generation, who will learn that it is possible – despite all the stereotypes that suggest otherwise – to be a gay man and an athlete, and also that gay men can lead successful, proud, open lives in all sorts of fields, including athletics.

Imagine being a young person who dreams of a sporting career but believes that sports teams are homophobic, unwelcoming places; Collins is proof that this doesn’t have to be the case. We just have to hope that he faces no difficulties due to being openly gay and proud, and that more athletes come out soon too.

Of course there has been some backlash. Rush Limbaugh lamented on Tuesday what he called the lack of “tolerance” for anti-gay reactions to Jason Collins’ coming out. Even though the NBA, the White House and Bill Clinton have praised Collins for his announcement, Limbaugh felt differently, which should come as no big surprise. “Why can’t everyone just put your sexual preferences on Facebook and call it a day? Why do we need to stop everything and have a national day of celebration, or mourning, depending on your point of view… about this?” the radio host wondered on Tuesday. “And this tolerance only goes one way.”

Limbaugh is missing the point, by a long shot. In this day and age, we need publicly out figures to be an encouragement. We need people like Collins to come out, so that others can as well. We need the role models. For a celebrity, it can’t be a subtle coming out. Someday, it won’t be like this, but someone has to begin the process. As tennis player and gay rights activist Billie Jean King has suggested, this news item is great, but it’s also a shame in a way – it would be better if people didn’t need to come out, and if instead everyone were accepted for who they are. We shouldn’t have to defend ourselves, but since the world isn’t yet at that stage, unfortunately we still need people such as Jason Collins.

Collins was extremely brave to come out, especially since he becomes a free agent on July 1 — meaning that he will first have to sign with an NBA team and wait until next season to see if teammates, coaches, opponents and fans will treat him any differently. So the question now is whether any general manager will sign Collins to another deal. With it would flow all the attention and scrutiny that comes with signing this modern gay-rights and sports icon. It would also mean that young athletes around the country would get to watch a publicly gay basketball player on the court on a regular basis.

Brooklyn Nets veteran Jerry Stackhouse, who has called Collins a friend for years, stated, “I think the real response will be once he gets a job….It’s not like he’s under contract next year and guaranteed to go back to a team. I think once that happens, then public opinion or whatever or players’ opinion will start to loom a little larger then. But right now we’ve got the summer to kind of digest what has happened, and I’m pulling for him.” I’m pulling for Collins too.

Golden State Warriors President and COO Rick Welts, the highest-ranking executive in men’s professional team sports to publicly acknowledge he is gay, said he thinks there will be a place in the league for Collins. “He absolutely will receive more opportunities,” Welts said. “A lot more doors will open for Jason than are going to close because of what he did (Monday).” We can certainly hope so.

His coming out has already been an opportunity for me as a teacher. One of my students, the same one I spoke of in an earlier post who came across some evidence that another student was gay, asked me if I had seen the news. I didn’t immediately know what he was talking about, but then he asked me if I had heard about the NBA player who came out. From there we had a very good class discussion about why this was such a momentous event and how brave Collins was to do so. I had just finished teaching the Civil Rights Movement last week (not an easy task when you teach at a majority white private school that was in the center of the civil rights struggle). We had also begun discussing the Vietnam War this week. I was able to bring up the Stonewall Riots, which is not in our textbook, and to discuss the role of the early homophile in attempting to remove the ban on gays in the military, how that had changed as the reality of Vietnam became known, and how we have eventually been able to repeal DADT.

Besides having a great discussion about equal rights, not a single person said anything negative about gay people. Nearly everyone saw Collins’s coming out as a positive thing. Someone did mention something about the locker room situation, but someone else countered with, “He’s the same person they’ve always taken a shower with, what difference should it make.” Truthfully, though I didn’t point this out to the kids, if a guy has been to a gym, then there is a high likelihood that they’ve already showered with a gay man.

I have one last thing to add that I found quite interesting about Jason Collins’s coming out. Collins has gone even further than many others in regard to coming-out statements, because he also noted the importance of his race and religion to him, and his desire to start a family. So besides shattering the idea that professional sports are not queer spaces, he also has helped remind people that gay men can be black, they can be religious Christians, and they can be looking to create nuclear families; gays are from every walk of life, just like straight people, which is one of the most important lessons that people can learn. I think that because a few of my students knowing that a fellow classmate is gay has given them a new perspective. Knowing is different from suspecting, and it puts a real face to LGBT people, and I honestly believe that it is making a difference, just as Collins becoming the first out gay man in a major U.S. professional sport will make a difference.


A Greek Island by Edward Hirsch

A Greek Island 
Traveling over your body I found
The failing olive and the cajoling flute,
Where I knelt down, as if in prayer,
And sucked a moist pit 
From the marl
Of the earth in a sacred cove.
You gave yourself to the god who comes,
The liberator of the loud shout, 
While I fell into a trance, 
Blood on my lips,
And stumbled into a temple on top
Of a hill at the bottom of the sky.
About this Poem:
“The poem takes a phrase (‘C’est l’olive pâmée, et la flûte câline’) from an obscene parody of Albert Mérat by Arthur Rimbaud and Paul Verlaine (‘Sonnet du trou du cul’) and develops it into an erotic poem.  Now the body of the body becomes a sacred site, a Greek island.”
–Edward Hirsch

Edward Hirsch is the author of numerous collections of poetry including, The Living Fire: New and Selected Poems(Knopf, 2011). Hirsch is a Chancellor of the Academy of American Poets and the president of the John Simon Guggenheim Memorial Foundation.

Sometimes…I Have to Write About Nothing

The only problem with writing a daily blog is that every now and then, I have nothing to write about, or I can’t find anything to share with you guys.  Sometimes, it’s the opposite.  I have what I think are two or three good ideas, and I have to decide which one to use, and then I have to decide if the others can be used another day.  On Tuesdays, I know I can always find a poem; Saturdays, I can usually find a “Moment of Zen;” and on Sundays, I can usually find a Bible verse if nothing else.  Today, is one of those days that I just can’t think of anything to write about.  I’ve checked out the gay news sources, and nothing popped out at me. Nothing else has struck me as interesting either.  I’m sure there is something, but it eludes me right now.

So today, I am writing about nothing, because I can’t think of anything to write about.

Moment of Zen: Staying in Bed


Knowledge

Acquire knowledge, it enableth its possessor to distinguish right from wrong; it lighteth the way to Heaven; it is our friend in the desert, our society in solitude, our companion when friendless; it guideth us to happiness; it sustaineth us in misery, it is an ornament amongst friends, and an armour against enemies.”
― Muhammad, quoted in The Sayings of Muhammad
A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots.
― Marcus Garvey
Knowledge is power. Information is liberating. Education is the premise of progress, in every society, in every family.
― Kofi Annan
Wisdom cannot be imparted. Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else … Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, do wonders through it, but one cannot communicate and teach it.
― Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha
If you have knowledge, let others light their candles at it.
― Margaret Fuller
Knowledge is of two kinds. We know a subject ourselves, or we know where we can find information on it.
― Samuel Johnson, quoted in Boswell’s Life of Johnson
The end of man is knowledge but there’s one thing he can’t know. He can’t know whether knowledge will save him or kill him. He will be killed, all right, but he can’t know whether he is killed because of the knowledge which he has got or because of the knowledge which he hasn’t got and which if he had it would save him.
― Robert Penn Warren, All the King’s Men
A society that fears knowledge is a society that fears itself.
― Bernard Beckett, Genesis



Blue Week

Do you ever have one of those weeks when you just feel down and depressed?  I seem to be having what I call a blue week, a week when nothing seems to go right, you’re in a constant bad mood, and you just feel down and depressed.  There have been a few bright spots, but it’s been two to three bright spots for a hundred dreary spots.  I just feel like the universe is aligned against me this week. The thing is, it’s not just one or two things I can name, but so many different things have happened that all seemed to be bad.  Hopefully, the end of week will be an improvement on the beginning.  Quite honestly, it will have to be, I don’t think I could handle it getting worse. 

I do like the picture above though.  It just seems melancholy and hopeful at the same time.  Plus, I love the colors, the purples, yellows, blues, and browns just blend together perfectly.


First Openly Gay NFL Player?

Alan Gendreau is nothing if not unique. A devout Christian and a Florida native, Gendreau was a superstar kicker for the Middle Tennessee State’s Blue Raiders; he is also openly gay. As an athlete at a Southern college, Gendreau was not only a successul team member, but he also felt accepted by his teammates. Now, he has his sights set on the National Football League (NFL).
Gendreau gave an exclusive interview to OutSports’ Cyd Zeigler about life as an openly gay college athlete and his NFL prospects, revealing that when he came out to his MT team in freshman year, they fully embraced him.
“Everyone just saw him as a football player,” MT holder and team punter Josh Davis told OutSports. “He was just one of the guys. The fact that he proved himself on the field, there was a respect for him.”
The 5-foot, 10-inch kicker, who graduated from MT last year, knows the NFL is a long-shot for him this year. Gendreau is currently a free agent, and only the New York Jets and Carolina Panthers are likely to draft a kicker this year. Still, it isn’t impossible.
“It’s totally legit that he can get into the league,” Minnesota Vikings punter Chris Kluwe, who is also a gay rights advocate, told OutSports. “Place-kicking is all about doing this one specific skill set. And if you can do that, you can make it whether you’ve been out of football for one year or 10 years.”
If he does make it into the NFL, Gendreau would not only be the first gay professional football player, but he would also be the first professional player to enter the league openly gay.
Gay players in sports have been especially controversial lately. Former Baltimore Ravens linebacker Brendon Ayanbadejo revealed earlier this month that as many as four current football players are in talks to come out in the near future. Following this statement, the NFL met with gay rights groups to discuss enacting policies to end homophobia and combat discrimination.
The NFL would likely embrace a player like Gendreau, and why not? The first openly gay, male athlete will likely rake in millions in endorsement deals and garner major attention for the team.
“We have seen time and time again that diversity is a benefit,” Hudson Taylor, founder and executive director of pro-tolerance nonprofit Athlete Ally, previously told The Huffington Post. “It’s a benefit in corporate America; it’s a benefit in schools; and it’s a benefit in sports. An athletic culture that welcomes and includes LGBT athletes will ultimately draw improved talent and create more unified and respectful team cultures.”
“These ideas are resonating for the sports community at all levels, from the leagues to the players to the corporate sponsors. And perhaps most importantly, they are resonating for fans,” he continued. “Though a player’s decision to come out is intensely personal and something about which only he or she knows best, it is a promising time as the sports community welcomes those decisions and the corporate community incentivizes them.”