Grief

  
I don’t know that someone can ever get over the loss of their best friend, especially when that person was so integral to your life. For me, it seems like each day gets a little better. I can talk about him now without bursting into tears, but then there are times when I want to tell him something and I realize that I can’t. When I have moments of happiness or moments when I’m not thinking of the loss, I feel guilty for thinking that way. 

Last week when I couldn’t seem to stop having thoughts sadness filled with the loss of a willingness to go on, I knew I needed some counseling. I saw a counselor last week, and I will see him again today. I haven’t had suicidal thoughts, but I wished that it could have been me in that car accident and not my friend. I’m not sure when or if I will get over wishing that it had been me instead of him. He had so much life to live and so many wonderful things yet to do.

Anyway, it’s getting a little easier each day, the grief and sadness isn’t, but the ability to continue becomes a little easier. I’ve thought for a while that I needed to see a counselor, so I think these appointments will do me good on many levels. I have to remind myself to still find the joys in life because that’s what my friend would have encouraged me to do. He was the person I always turned to in times of need, and I need him now more than ever.

Thank you all for your words of sympathy and support. They mean a lot to me and have helped me through this last week and a half.

About Joe

I began my life in the South and for five years lived as a closeted teacher, but am now making a new life for myself as an oral historian in New England. I think my life will work out the way it was always meant to be. That doesn't mean there won't be ups and downs; that's all part of life. It means I just have to be patient. I feel like October 7, 2015 is my new birthday. It's a beginning filled with great hope. It's a second chance to live my life…not anyone else's. My profile picture is "David and Me," 2001 painting by artist Steve Walker. It happens to be one of my favorite modern gay art pieces. View all posts by Joe

One response to “Grief

  • jacki perrette

    Don’t feel guilty about forgetting or about enjoying anything that will add a bright spot to your day. Grief is hard and you need the reprieve to handle it. It will, in no way, detract from the love you had or the honor that you do for your friend. ❤

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