Melody in Your Heart

“Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;

Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

–Ephesians 5:19–20

I’ve known this verse by heart since childhood. In the Church of Christ where I grew up, Ephesians 5:19 wasn’t just a favorite scripture—it was a foundational one. The Church of Christ bases its practice of a cappella worship on this passage, interpreting Paul’s instruction to “sing and make melody in your heart” as a call to pure vocal praise without the accompaniment of instruments. The voice itself is the instrument God gave us, and the melody is meant to come from within.

As a teenager, I was our congregation’s song leader. I wasn’t particularly good at it, but with only thirteen members in attendance on most Sundays, I was the best we had after our older song leader, Mr. Wayne, could no longer lead because of emphysema. In a small rural congregation like ours, everyone had a role. The preacher usually led the first prayer, and my daddy always gave the closing one. I helped him pass the Lord’s Supper and the collection plate.

Our service never changed much: two songs while seated, then the prayer, followed by one song seated and a second song standing before the sermon. After the sermon came the invitation song, then communion and the closing song—usually just the first verse—before the final prayer. It was a rhythm as familiar as breathing.

I still remember my favorite hymns from Songs of the Church:

Amazing GraceRock of AgesSend the LightHow Great Thou ArtOld Rugged CrossBlessed AssurancePrecious Memoriesand I’ll Fly Away.

For invitationals, we sang God is Calling the ProdigalJesus Is Tenderly CallingNothing but the Blood, or Softly and Tenderly.

Our closing songs were nearly always I Know That My Redeemer Lives or Unclouded Day.

I even found an old index card tucked in my songbook recently, one of my services carefully written out:

There were no altos, tenors, or basses in our little church—just us singing from our hearts. The sound may not have been polished, but it was pure. Each voice rose in faith, carrying more sincerity than skill, and that, I believe, is exactly what Paul meant when he told the Ephesians to make melody in their hearts to the Lord.

When I reflect on Ephesians 5:19–20 today, I see more than just a theological argument about instruments. I see the heart of worship itself: that gratitude and melody begin within us. Paul isn’t prescribing what kind of music pleases God; he’s describing why we sing—to give thanks, to speak to one another in faith, and to let joy and hope find expression.

Whether accompanied by an organ or sung a cappella in a little white-clapboard church, true worship comes from a heart that overflows with gratitude. The melody Paul speaks of isn’t confined to vocal cords; it’s the harmony of a thankful soul resonating with God’s love.

And sometimes, when I’m alone and humming What a Friend We Have in Jesus or In the Morning of Joy, two songs that have gotten me through some of my toughest times, I still feel that same peace I knew standing before thirteen faithful souls, leading songs in that small country church where my faith was first formed.

At the end of every service, my daddy always gave the closing prayer. His words never changed much, but they carried deep comfort and familiarity. It was his way of sending us back into the world—asking God’s protection until we gathered again the next Sunday.

Prayer:

Lord, dismiss us as we leave Thy house, bless the ones not with us that they may be with us the next Lord’s Day. Guide, guard, and direct us. In Christ’s name we pray. Amen.

About Joe

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I began my life in the South and for five years lived as a closeted teacher, but am now making a new life for myself as an oral historian in New England. I think my life will work out the way it was always meant to be. That doesn't mean there won't be ups and downs; that's all part of life. It means I just have to be patient. I feel like October 7, 2015 is my new birthday. It's a beginning filled with great hope. It's a second chance to live my life…not anyone else's. My profile picture is "David and Me," 2001 painting by artist Steve Walker. It happens to be one of my favorite modern gay art pieces. View all posts by Joe

4 responses to “Melody in Your Heart

  • vandycolt's avatar vandycolt

    Hey! You ought to watch W7th Church of Christ

  • Anonymous's avatar Anonymous

    Thanks for sharing your faith with us. I know that the Church of Christ is fairly conservative, but you seem less injured by your faith journey than most gay men are.

    • Joe's avatar Joe

      I think it’s because of the values being a Christian taught me. A lot of churches are more political these days than religious. I grew up in a small country church where politics was not discussed. There are two things I’ve always believed a preacher should never discuss from the pulpit: money and politics.

  • furbirdsqueerly's avatar furbirdsqueerly

    Years ago you couldn’t keep this old queer out of the church. Of course I was a young gay boy at that time. I never missed a Sunday school class and had a long row of pins to prove it on the lapel of my jacket. Jesus was my first man love and how I sat there on Sunday wishing that from his picture praying in the garden he would give me a wink. One thing that stuck with me from those days was the idea of the “least of these.” Even later in life when I left the church and became a communist and later an anarchist I based my every political thought out from the least of these. How would this or how does this or that bear on the least of these. I still begin my discussion of politics today with that idea. I remember right before leaving in 1965 that the minister of the church told me, “The church needs you gay people far more than you need the church.” He was an amazing person who stood up wherever injustice reared its ugly head. I like you Joe still have fond memories of the hymns we sang and even today I find myself singing them. My next project within the idea of OurStories will be a collection of the open and affirming churches in Connecticut telling about their journey in welcoming LGBTQI+peoples. This collection when finished will be given to the archives which I wrote about to you. Important for each church to tell about its journey. In the Hartford area Immanuel Congregational UCC is celebrating 25 yrs. of being open and affirming which began right after there was a memorial march when Matthew Sheppard was murdered and we marched to their church and they welcomed us. After hearing our stories they began their journey. Yes it is interesting how many of us have maintained our early Christian values and put them into practice in our out look and our actions.

    Be well and safe Joe and thank you.

    Richard Nelson

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