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About Joe

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I began my life in the South and for five years lived as a closeted teacher, but am now making a new life for myself as an oral historian in New England. I think my life will work out the way it was always meant to be. That doesn't mean there won't be ups and downs; that's all part of life. It means I just have to be patient. I feel like October 7, 2015 is my new birthday. It's a beginning filled with great hope. It's a second chance to live my life…not anyone else's. My profile picture is "David and Me," 2001 painting by artist Steve Walker. It happens to be one of my favorite modern gay art pieces.

Moment of Zen: Yoga


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TGIF

Although I’ve only worked two days this week (today will make three), work has been filled with annoyances. I don’t expect today to be any different, especially with what’s on today’s agenda. I’m looking forward to testing a mattress and going to dinner with friends tonight. I’m just glad the weekend is almost here.

P.S. I’m not sure why I chose this picture for today except that I found it interesting. All guys know that sometimes you have an itch, need to adjust, or just need to feel it in your hands. I wonder which of those the guy in this picture is doing. 🤔


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Mattress Help

I learned a long time ago that my blog readers have a variety of experiences and there is always one (sometimes more) of you who will let me know your opinion. I love that about all of you. So, I want to ask a question and see what y’all have to say. I am looking for a new mattress. My current mattress, which I’ve had since I moved to Vermont, is uncomfortable. While I’m moving, I think it would be a good time to get a new one. Each morning when I wake up, my neck, shoulders, back, and hips hurt. It takes a while to work out all of the kinks and stiffness. (Just and FYI: I always sleep on my side.) With my CPAP, I sleep well, but I hate waking up in pain every day.

Here are my questions: 

  • What type of mattress would you suggest? I am considering buying a DreamCloud Premier mattress. 
  • Do any of you have any experience with a DreamCloud mattress? 
  • For pain and stiffness like I am describing, what type of mattress should I get? Something firm or plush or somewhere in between?
  • Is there another mattress you would suggest?

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Follow Your Arrow

Follow Your Arrow
Songwriters: Shane L. Mcanally / Kacey Musgraves / Brandy Lynn Clark

If you save yourself for marriage
You’re a bore
You don’t save yourself for marriage
You’re a horrible person
If you won’t have a drink
Then you’re a prude
But they’ll call you a drunk
As soon as you down the first one

If you can’t lose the weight
Then you’re just fat
But if you lose too much
Then you’re on crack

You’re damned if you do
And you’re damned if you don’t
So you might as well just do
Whatever you want

So, make lots of noise (hey)
Kiss lots of boys (yup)
Or kiss lots of girls
If that’s something you’re into
When the straight and narrow
Gets a little too straight
Roll up a joint, or don’t

Just follow your arrow
Wherever it points, yeah
Follow your arrow
Wherever it points

If you don’t go to church
You’ll go to hell
If you’re the first one on the front row
You’re self-righteous son of a-

Can’t win for losin’
You’ll just disappoint ’em
Just ’cause you can’t beat ’em
Don’t mean you should join ’em

So, make lots of noise (hey)
Kiss lots of boys (yup)
Or kiss lots of girls
If that’s something you’re into
When the straight and narrow
Gets a little too straight
Roll up a joint, or don’t

Just follow your arrow
Wherever it points, yeah
Follow your arrow
Wherever it points

Say what you think (Say what you think)
Love who you love (Love who you love)
‘Cause you just get so many trips ’round the sun
Yeah, you only
Only live once

So make lots of noise (hey)
Kiss lots of boys (yup)
Or kiss lots of girls
If that’s what you’re into
When the straight and narrow
Gets a little too straight
Roll up a joint, I would

And follow your arrow
Wherever it points, yeah
Follow your arrow
Wherever it points

Kacey Musgraves’ single, ‘Follow Your Arrow,’ caused some controversy in the often non-accepting country music industry when it came out. But according to the up-and-coming singer, the song started out as a simple gesture to a close friend. Musgraves said, “It started off as a poem, honestly, for this friend who was going off to Paris for four months studying and she was leaving everything she knew behind, going to a foreign country [and] didn’t know the language. I gave her this little arrow necklace and I wrote a little poem and it had ‘follow your arrow’ in it, ‘kiss lots of boys,’ and it kind of started there, but it turned into a bigger idea.”

The song is about self-acceptance, imploring listeners to not worry too much about whether others judge their life choices. The song’s live and let live lyrics regarding gay people came just three years after Chely Wright made headlines by being the first country star of her caliber to come out of the closet. Although some potential fans surely write off Musgraves as too liberal, the song didn’t halt Musgraves success. Either Wright and other openly gay country singers, like Billy Gillman, made a significant enough impact on changing listeners’ minds in a short span of years, or Musgraves’ ageless messages of loving your neighbor and minding your own business overshadowed socio-political divisiveness enough for her not to get banished from country music.

 I thought I’d do a Musical March for my poetry posts this month. Some of the greatest songs either began as poems like “Follow Your Arrow” did or they are poetry within themselves.


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Packing

I’ll be moving into my new apartment in the first week of April, and I’m starting to pack up my current place. I’m going to go room by room. I started with the spare bedroom yesterday. I got most everything packed except for my clothes that are stored in there. I have way too many clothes anyway, and I need to get rid of what no longer fits, the larger clothes that I hope to never fit into again, and what I know I’ll never wear again. I need a smaller wardrobe. Most of the stuff I have, I no longer wear, and it needs to go. I’ll pack it up and take it to Goodwill or the Salvation Army for donation.

Once the spare bedroom is packed, I’ll probably move on to the living room and dining room. The dining room doesn’t have much in it. I’d planned to buy a table after I moved in, but I never got around to it. I was going to go with some friends and look at secondhand stores to see what was available, but now I’m going to wait until I move and see if I can find a small breakfast table that will fit nicely in the dining area of my new apartment. There will be a few things I’ll need for the new apartment, but it shouldn’t be too bad.

I have today and tomorrow off, so I’ll continue to pack and get prepared to move.