Category Archives: Travel

Shit Happens 

  

First things first, I’m ok, sadly my car is not. On I-40 just outside of Knoxville, TN, I hit some large piece of metal (well about the size of my head) in the road. It punctured my gas tank. I had no choice as I was flanked by semi trucks. Luckily, no sparks were present, and I was able to pull off to the side of the road and call 911. The local fire department arrived and neutralized the gas and my car was towed to a local garage. The tow truck was kind enough to take me to a hotel. So for at least tonight I’m stuck in Lenoir City, Tennessee, in a hotel. Hopefully, they can get a new fuel tank quickly and get it installed today, and I can be back on my way. If they have the part, I was told they’ll move quickly, assuming the only damage was the fuel tank. If not, my insurance company will send me a rental car to use until my car is fixed but it would still mean I’m stuck in Lenoir City, Tennessee. Maybe I can explore some of nearby Knoxville.

I had to cancel my hotel reservations in Virginia and Albany. Hopefully, the hotel in Albany will not charge me as I cancelled a day in advance. My Virginia hotel was not as kind. They are charging me regardless because I did not cancel 24 hours in advance. They didn’t care that I had an accident.

On the bright side, there were no sparks and my car did not blow up with or without me in it. This is just one of those things that happens and it could have been far worse. I did enough crying and freaking out yesterday, I am going to try and remain calm. I will get to Vermont, come Hell or high water.

UPDATE (10am EST): The needed part was found in Knoxville and unless there is more extensive damage than they initially thought, my car will be ready tomorrow. The insurance company is sending a rental car to let me use until the car is ready. It means I’m stuck at the hotel until 4pm when they will deliver the car.


A New Day

  
Today is the first day of my new life. I’m driving as far as Virginia today and have dinner with a friend at Virginia Tech, then I’ll drive from there to Albany, New York, on Thursday. I’ll arrive in my new town on Friday and take possession of my new apartment. The rest of this week is a transition but the new day has begun. 

Since this is a new beginning, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about my blog title. And while I have mulled over a number of suggestions, I’ve decided that at least for now, it will stay The Closet Professor. As my friend of mine in marketing would say, it’s my brand. It is what people are familiar with and even though the web address wouldn’t change, there would still be some ripple effect in changing it. I chose The Closet Professor because I was a teacher and I was in the closet, but also because it gave the blog an LGBT qualifier in the name. The LGBT part of the title is something that has always been very important to me, and I don’t want to let that go. Even though I will no longer be teaching (though I’m still hoping I might be able to, at least some) and I will be out, The Closet Professor is a major part of who I am. It’s who I was and part of me will always be.  

I began my life in the South and for five years lived as a closeted teacher, but am now making a new life for myself as an oral historian in New England. I think my life will work out the way it was always meant to be. That doesn’t mean there won’t be ups and downs; that’s all part of life. It means I just have to be patient. I feel like today, October 7, 2015, is my new birthday. It’s a beginning filled with great hope. It’s a second chance to live my life…not anyone else’s.

A new day has begun…


Moving Preparations


I’ve been getting things packed this week and ready to move. I found an apartment and put down a security deposit. It’s a cute two story 1850s house split into four apartments. It has beautiful hardwood floors, and I was lucky to find one in which all utilities are included. It’s a one bedroom apartment but has a good sized living room and kitchen. I’ve only seen it in pictures, but I know it’s the one I want. It’s in an excellent neighborhood and the price is good. It’s within walking distance of the museum, and on the same road if I choose to drive. And when friends and family come to visit, there is a bed and breakfast located conveniently next door.

Now that I have found a place to live, it’s all about the packing. Since I don’t want to rent and drive a moving van and tow my car up there, I have decided to take as little as possible. My parents had originally planned on going with me, but the timeframe changed and they will come up in a few weeks. They will bring any nonessentials with them when they come. I will pack clothes, a few appliances/electronics (tv, microwave, a few lamps, etc. that I will need), dishes, pots, and pans, some linens, books, and DVDs. I have the furniture I want already picked out and ready to be delivered once I have possession of the apartment and an address. Also, this way, I can buy what I need now and get the pieces I want later to add to the furnishings. I do wish I could pack the guy sitting in the car in the above picture in my car. He’d make a nice decoration for my new apartment.

So next week, I will be packing my car and getting ready to leave Wednesday morning to make the drive to Vermont over a couple of days. I know I will stop and visit a friend of mine at Virginia Tech and spend the night there on Wednesday night. I plan to spend a night somewhere on Thursday night maybe somewhere close to the New York-Vermont border (any suggestions) and then drive the rest Friday morning and get the keys and move into my new home.

So right now, that’s the plan. God willing, I will be in my new home on October 9. So far, God has been pretty willing, I pray he continues to be and this is a smooth transition to a new home.


On My Way Home

  
I received nothing but good feedback from the group who interviewed me. They will not make a decision though until next week. They have two more interviews, but I’ve been told by several that they really like me and were very impressed with my credentials. They continued to spend most of the time trying to convince me that I want the job. I’m already convinced. I was trying to convince them to hire me. So I hope I did convince them that they want me, and I want to be there.

If it is in the morning when you read this, I am probably in an airplane flying home. I hope it’s an airplane more sturdy than the paper airplanes in the picture.


Exhausted but Good 

  
I was very tired as I wrote this last night. It had been a whirlwind day. I had been put up the night before at a hotel near the airport and brought down to the museum/campus in the morning. I was given a tour of the museum and the campus and then lunch. After the lunch was the formal interview, though I wouldn’t call it too formal. The people at the museum are very informal, and it makes for a relaxing atmosphere. After the interview, I was given a tour of the surrounding area. I really love this area. It’s very funky cool (that’s the only way I can describe it). After touring a few places, we met for dinner, which was excellent. The president of the museum board had dinner with us and I can’t say this enough, everyone was so nice and relaxed. There was a lot of laughing and friendliness. Then I came back to the bed and breakfast that I’m staying in so I could relax. I will go to the museum this morning after breakfast, but I’m not sure what today’s agenda will be. I was only told that we’d work out some of the details. I’m really hoping that they can tell me today whether or not I’m hired, though they may wait until I am home for that. I think though that today will probably be an easy day.


Flying Out

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Time got away from me yesterday because I was packing and making sure I had everything I would need for the next few days. I pray that I have packed everything. While the guys above look very sexy, I made sure that I packed pants socks and shoes as well. Well, actually I packed two suits and then two casual outfits, just not as casual as the ones above.

I’m nervous, but that’s to be expected. I’m hoping that all goes well and that I didn’t forget anything. I’ll fly out this afternoon and arrive sometime tomorrow night, then be driven down to the hotel near the college. I’m not exactly sure what to expect Tuesday and Wednesday, except that I will be spending that time with the museum staff.

I’m scheduling today’s post and I will schedule tomorrow’s. I will try to post on Wednesday and Thursday if time permits, though I suspect they will be short posts. Wish me luck and please continue to pray. Thank you all for your love, support, and advice. I have the best group of readers out there.


Six Flags

  

My niece really wanted to ride roller coasters yesterday, so I took her on the Georgia Cyclone first. The Georgia Cyclone is a wooden roller coaster that is a mirror image of the original Coney Island Cyclone, but ten feet higher.  If you’ve ever been on a wooden roller coaster you know they will nearly shake or beat you to death.  There isn’t a damn thing fun about them, which is why I took her on that one first.  It cured her of wanting to ride another one, most of which she was too short for anyway.  That may be a bit mean and sneaky of me, but they give me vertigo, make me sick and usually I end up with a headache, so better to go on one then have to ride them all.

Silvereagle, yes, it was hell.  The heat index I’m sure was over 100 degrees, and by the end of the day, it was thundering and lightning and most of the park closed down, so we went back to the hotel.

Susan, my mother and I have had this discussion of not volunteering me for things without my knowledge.  I made it absolutely clear that this was the last time I’m going to Six Flags.

Michael, yes, I do cherish these memories with my niece, and more importantly she cherishes them too.

JiEL, it is particularly nice that my niece loves it so.  Her aunt on her father’s side insists on taking her to Disney World (which I cannot afford), but the nice thing is, she has said on numerous occasions that it much more fun to go to Six Flags with me.

Jay, it’s getting harder for me to fit in some of these rides too.  Have you ever seen Gabriel Iglesias talk about getting on rides and seeing how many clicks they can get on the safety bar?  It is too funny. His amusement park stories are some of his funniest.

Amanda, people watching truly is the most fun.  So many hot guys!


Sacrificial Lamb

  

I feel like I’m being led away as the sacrificial lamb.  I am taking my niece to Six Flags today.  I hate amusement parks.  I hate the crowds.  I hate the rides.  However, I love my seven year old niece, and she did make straight A’s all year long.  My mother promised her a trip to Six Flags as a reward, and I get the supreme pleasure of doing something I hate with a passion.  I know it’s probably wrong of me, but I hope that she’s too short for the only two roller coasters that I’m “almost” willing to ride (The Great American Scream Machine and the Georgia Cyclone).  Pray for me to survive.  Especially, since it’s going to be 97 degrees today and God only knows how high the heat index will be.


Louisiana: A Fun Place to Be

  

We are having a great time here in Louisiana.  We spent two nights in New Orleans, and now we are spending two nights in Cajun country.  Tomorrow morning (the pic above is obviously not of a swamp tour, but isn’t he cute?), we are going on a swamp tour and possibly to see a plantation tomorrow afternoon.

  
There isn’t a lot to say in this post, but here are two suggestions for when you go to New Orleans: eat at the Court of Two Sisters (entrance on Royal or Bourbon) for their fabulous jazz brunch and visit the five Louisiana State Museums.  Also, I highly suggest that you head down Bourbon past St Ann, where Oz and Bourbon Pub is and venture just over a block to a small store called Bourbon Pride.  Josh Duffy owns it and I’m a big fan of his music. Bourbon Prode has all the things a gay boy needs, and the staff was super nice and very helpful.  I’ll definitely be returning to Bourbon Pride next time I’m in New Orleans.

  


NOLA:  A Rich Gay Heritage

 
During the New Orleans’ early history, gay people were largely invisible, although same-gender communities existed throughout the culture. Although not self-identified, some prominent figures such as multi-millionaire John McDonogh – a life-long bachelor – might be recognized today as a gay man.

As the nineteenth century ended and a wild new music was being birthed in the saloons and bordellos of Storyville, Tony Jackson was crowned the “unrivaled king” of the early jazz pianists. Described as “an epileptic, alcoholic, homosexual Negro genius,” he composed countless songs, including “Pretty Baby,” inspired by a lover.

By the time writer Lyle Saxon arrived in 1919, the French Quarter was little more than a run-down slum. Saxon championed its preservation and promoted the Quarter as a welcoming home for artists. Among them was Truman Capote, who was born here and returned as a nineteen-year-old to write his first novel in a slave quarter apartment on Royal Street.

Tennessee Williams arrived in 1938 and knew immediately he had found his spiritual home. “A Streetcar Named Desire” would become the most famous New Orleans work of literature. Pioneering photographer Frances Benjamin Johnston retired to New Orleans in 1940, living in her Bourbon Street townhouse until her death in 1952.

A lively gay social world had long existed, but after Prohibition ended in 1933, it became more public. In 1936, a bar opened at the Lafitte Blacksmith Shop on Bourbon Street. Although its clientele was a varied group, gay men and women knew they were welcome. But in 1953, the owners lost their lease. They moved to the next corner and reopened as Café Lafitte in Exile – now one of the oldest gay bars in the country.

Private gay socializing flourished in mid-century New Orleans. The oldest continuing gay event, the Fat Monday Luncheon, began in 1949, and the oldest gay social organization, the Steamboat Club, was launched in 1953. The Krewe of Yuga was the first gay Carnival club in 1958, followed by the Krewe of Petronius in 1961.

 The Gay Liberation movement was slower to develop in New Orleans than in many other cities. This was due in part to local politics. In 1967, District Attorney Jim Garrison arrested Clay Shaw, a prominent gay business and civic leader, and charged him with conspiring to assassinate President John F. Kennedy. Although Shaw was eventually acquitted, the affair had a chilling effect on political organizing.

Nevertheless, a small group of activists founded the Gay Liberation Front of New Orleans in late 1970. Although the group dissolved within a year, participants subsequently organized a Metropolitan Community Church congregation and a chapter of the national lesbian organization, Daughters of Bilitis.

The emerging community suffered a great tragedy in June 1973, when a deliberately set fire in the Upstairs Lounge killed 32 people. 

But the indomitable New Orleans spirit prevailed. Southern Decadence started as a small party in 1972, the same year as the Tulane University Gay Students Union. The 1970s also saw the arrival of IMPACT newspaper, the Faubourg Marigny Bookstore and the first gay pride events.

The Gertrude Stein Society, which began in 1975, brought together a group of men and women who were instrumental in developing an active community infrastructure in the 1980s: the Louisiana Gay Political Action Caucus (1980), the State Gay Conference (1981), the New Orleans Gay Men’s Chorus and a local chapter of P-FLAG (both in 1982), and the NO/AIDS Task Force (1983).

The 1990s were a decade of political accomplishment. In 1991, the New Orleans City Council passed a gay non-discrimination ordinance. Shortly afterwards, Gov. Edwin W. Edwards issued a far-reaching executive order, prohibiting discrimination in state employment and services. In 1997, Louisiana earned the distinction of being the first state in the Deep South to pass a hate crimes law that covered sexual orientation, and New Orleans Mayor Marc H. Morial extended domestic partner benefits to city employees. And, in 1998, New Orleans became one of the earliest cities to add gender identity to its list of groups protected from discrimination.

As the century closed and the new millennium dawned, GLBT people in New Orleans could look with pride at a community that had achieved much in its political movement, while continuing to develop its vibrant social life.

  
I also want to add one more thing about New Orleans. Of the many times I’ve been here, I’ve stayed at the Holiday Inn-French Quarter, the Fairmont (now The Roosevelt Waldorf Astoria), and the Hilton. Each are very nice hotels (The Fairmont is probably the finest hotel I’ve ever stayed in, with the Peachtree Westin in Atlanta a close second), but on this trip, I stayed at the Prince Conti Hotel which is less than a block from Bourbon Street. It is by far my favorite hotel in New Orleans, and I highly recommend it to anyone coming to New Orleans. It has an exceptional price, has the best wi-if I’ve ever experienced in the city (or any hotel from that matter), and the staff could not be any friendlier. The front desk staff was so wonderful and friendly, remembering us each time we walked into the hotel and asking us how our day was and wishing us a good nights sleep and sweet dreams. It’s been a special experience. The hotel room was luxurious with high ceilings and an old southern feel. I will admit that the view from our room was not spectacular and the hallways smell a bit musty, but let’s face it, if you want a spectacular view, you will pay for it and everything else made up for the view. As for the musty smell, it is only noticeable when leaving your room, when coming back to your room from the odiferous city streets of New Orleans, the smell is quite refreshing (that is not even noticeable). So if you are heading to New Orleans, I suggest a stay at the Prince Conti Hotel. When I read reviews, the main thing was how expensive parking is at the hotel, but even when combined with the the hotel rate, it’s still less expensive than most hotels in the city, especially hotels in the heart of the French Quarter.