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Pain

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I tend to have a high tolerance for pain. Mainly, it’s because I’ve suffered with headaches my entire life. Rarely does a day go by when I don’t have a headache at some point. I’ve learned to deal with it and suffer through the pain. Most of the time a pain reliever helps; sometimes nothing does. I’ve have taken numerous medicines throughout my life to try and prevent having headaches, but nothing has ever been effective. Some have had bad aide effects, such as when a doctor prescribed Elavil (amitriptyline). It gave me night terrors. Another was Ativan (lorazepam) is supposed to be a short term drug; usually its recommended that someone should not for longer than 3-6 months. If used for long periods of time, it causes severe depression. I was a teenager when I took this drug and was on it for over a year. Some of the severe side effects include confusion, depressed mood, thoughts of suicide or hurting yourself;. Not only did it not help my headaches, but it also caused severe depression. Combine the side effects of Ativan and a teenager confused about his sexuality, and you have a dangerous mix. It was during this time that I attempted suicide. I was 16 at the time.

I’m writing this because I was thinking last night of my problems with headaches. Sinus headaches, tension headaches, cluster headaches, and migraines all have afflicted me through my life. What I take for my headaches depends on what type it is. Sometimes nothing helps. Medicine may lessen the pain, but not make it go away. Beginning Wednesday night before I went to bed, my head began to hurt. I took something and went to sleep. I woke with a headache the next morning, and I knew it would be a bad one. It was one of those that hurt all over, especially behind my eyes and the back of my head. This was also a headache that came with nausea, photophobia, phonophobia, and lightheadedness. Thankfully, these types of headaches, which is generally a mixture of migraine and tension headaches, only happen 2-3 days out of a year. However, when they do occur, they are quite incapacitating. I stayed in bed most of the day yesterday and took the strongest pain medicine I had. It barely fazed it.

HRH, my cat, gave me some comfort. She lay beside me and kept patting my head with her paw. After 15 years, she knows when I have a headache. I’m sure there is a mixture of genetic, physical, and psychological reasons for my headaches. I’ve had them for as long as I can remember. Maybe one day, they will either stop or they will find some kind of preventive measure that works. I hope each of you are some of the blessed people who never suffer from headaches, and if you do suffer from headaches, I hope that it is infrequently. I assume that most people who have some type of chronic condition learns to deal with it in the best way they can, as I have learned to deal with my headaches.


EAT! DRINK! BE MARY!: TMI Questions from Sean

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I am not a huge drinker. I am a social drinker more than anything, but my friends tend to consume two or three drinks for each of mine. I especially don’t drink around people who I’m not out to or feel comfortable around because I tend to lose my inhibitions and am a lot gayer. However, when I saw this post from Sean at Just A Jeep Guy, I couldn’t resist adding my two cents. I love these TMI questions when it’s something I can relate to. So here goes:

1. Cocktails at brunch: Bloody Mary or Mimosa? Bloody Mary during cold weather, and Mimosas if it is hot outside. Both are pretty fantastic drinks if made right, but too cheap of a champagne can ruin a Mimosa and its easy to make a bad Bloody Mary if you don’t know what you’re doing.

2. Do you have a favorite food/drink pairing? A good Pinot Grigio with Veal Scallopini (or Scaloppini al Vino) or linguini with clams in a white wine sauce. Of course, you can never go wrong with beer and pizza. Also a favorite is Lazy Magnolia’s (a Mississippi brewery) Southern Pecan Nut Brown Ale with pecan crusted chicken is a great pairing.

3. Beer? Wine? or Cocktails? Why? Beer or Mike’s Hard Lemonade on a hot day hanging out with friends. White wine when it’s a more formal event. Cocktails, particularly a margarita or cape cod when out at a bar, unless I don’t want to spend much money, then it’s Bud Light.

4. Red wine or white wine? White wine. I can’t stand red wine.

5. Tell me about the hard stuff. Nothing beats Tito’s Handmade Vodka. It’s a wonderful smooth tasting vodka, and it always gives me lovely dreams.

6. Cigars? No, I’ve tried to smoke them, but I hate them for two reasons: 1) they smell like burning dog shit, and 2) I can’t get the taste out of my mouth the next day.

7. When was the last time you were hungover? Worst hangover? It’s been several months since I’ve had a hangover, but the worst lasted about 3 days. I do my best not to drink enough to have a hangover. It was due to mixing alcohols. I keep with one type of alcohol a night, so that I want get sick. I can’t mix liquor and beer or change the beer I am drinking or drink more than one type of liquor.

8. Best hangover cure. Before I go to bed, I take three-four ibuprofen (depending on how much I had to drink) and a full glass of water. I usually don’t have a hangover if I do this.

9. Craziest/baddest thing you did when you had too much? Did you remember it or did your friends inform you? Make it a fun one! Ok, this might break some illusions some of you have about me, but several years ago, I got really drunk in New Orleans and gave a go-go dancer a blowjob while he was dancing on the bar. I remember it quite well. I am cursed/blessed with remembering everything when I’ve been drinking. It was slutty and a hell of a lot of fun at the time. And yes, I’d do it again if given the chance, lol.

BONUS
Are you a cheap date? How many drinks does it take you get you into bed? Yep, I’m probably a cheap date, especially if tequila is involved. Tequila makes me horny, and I am not one to drink a whole lot, so yeah, I’m a cheap date. If on a date I am unlikely to drink more than two or three drinks. If out with friends, I rarely drink more than the equivalent to a six pack of beer.

So there you have it. My TMI questions about booze.


A Collection of Thoughts


There were several topics that I wanted to blog about today, but couldn’t decide on only one, so I just thought this would be a random post of a collection of my thoughts.  So, here we go.

First of all, I was watching Julie & Julia last night for the first time.  It is quite a delightful movie, and when Julie Powell found out that Julia Child was not fond of her blog, I began to think about blogging.  Personally, I have had wonderful experiences blogging.  Yes, there have been times when people have left somewhat hateful, or at least disheartening comments on my blog, but for the most part, my comments are positive.  I have met and corresponded with some wonderful people and made a few delightful new friends who have been an inspiration in my life.  Also, unlike Julie Powell, my favorite author, Mark Childress, once commented on my blog when I wrote about what an admirer I was of his writing.  It was truly a thrill.  I’ve had authors and poets write to me, and I have always enjoyed reading what they send me. I am currently reading one of those books right now,  Shirts and Skins by Jeffrey Luscombe, The Gay Groom.  And what a delightful book it is.  I can’t wait to finish it and review it for all of you.

Next on my list of thoughts is to answer a few comments from my post yesterday “Jesus Was a Capricorn.” For the Anonymous commenter who said he or she was one of those “ Conservative Republicans” I described, I wanted to say that I agree with you completely that I too am “concerned that so many of the beliefs on BOTH sides of the aisle (conservative and liberal) have more to do with following the crowd lined up behind their banner vs. seeking, listening and discerning what the truth is and forming their own views and opinions based on that.”  I honestly think that for the majority of Americans, neither the Republican nor Democratic Party represent our beliefs anymore.  They both have some very loud voices that drown out the moderates of America.  I firmly believe that we should treat others as we want to be treated and neither party really takes that into consideration.  They are far too concerned about what they don’t like and what everyone else is doing wrong than to have any helpful solutions.  We need more positive politics.  The recent party conventions were more about negative politics than positive politics.

And to Silvereagle, I want to thank you for your encouraging words.  Jay, I know that I am preaching to the choir, but I also think that if we know our arguments better and and more informed about the truth, then we are better prepared to give rebuttals to those who fight against us. Will, I think that instead of thinking of them as 2,000 year old prejudices, we should think of them as morals that have been handed down through history from the beginning of mankind.  Since the first people decided to believe in an afterlife, we have placed human morals, those basic fundamentals of the laws of nature and nature’s God, as the basic tenements of reaching a peaceful afterlife.  And, GP, you are absolutely correct about the Apocrypha, but many of those early writings cannot be traced to the first century and are often from the 3rd, 4th, or 5th centuries.  While some of them possibly should have been included, there is not enough of those books that have survived to add to the Biblical cannon.  When we reach the afterlife, our questions will be answered.
I also wanted to remind you guys that I do have jewelry for sale on Etsy.com.  If there is something that you like and would like somewhat differently from what is described in the listings, then let me know, and I can custom make something for you.  I have also added a few new items to my listings, so check it out, and get to buying, LOL.
Finally, I wanted to say, “It’s finally here.”  The fall season has made it.  We had our first mild day in what seems like forever.  It was very nice to finally walk outside and not break out into a sweat because of the heat and humidity.  It was actually pleasant.  Fall is still officially a couple of weeks away, but at least we are getting a small respite from the heat.  It may not last long, but I can at least hold out hope.
So there are my random thoughts for today.
P.S. The picture above has nothing to do with anything in this post but is merely another piece of randomness.  I just thought the picture was so cute and wanted to share it with you.

TMI Movies

On Sean’s blog, Just a Jeep Guy, he posted on Tuesday “TMI TUESDAY QUESTIONS: LET’S GO TO THE MOVIES.”  And I decided that I would once again participate.  So here we go:

LET’S GO TO THE MOVIES

1. Do you still go to the movies? Why or Why not?
I do, but it is very rarely.  I tend to wait for a movie to come out on DVD, unless I am really excited about the movie and can find the time to go see one. I love watching a movie in the theater, but sometimes it’s just too much of a hassle.  Though I love the experience, I have never been a big movie goer.
2. Would you go by yourself?
Generally, I do end up going by myself, which is another reason I don’t go often.
3. What was the last movie you saw? Recent recommendation?
The last movie I saw was the Hunger Games.  ( I wanted to see Magic Mike, but wasn’t able to make it, because too much was going on during the time it was in the theaters.)  Hunger Games was a good movie, but it still could have been better.  The books was far superior.  That being said, since the second and third book in the series were mediocre, I’m hoping that the movies based on those books will be better.  If the movies are on par with the first movie, then they should be better than the actual second and third books of the trilogy. They could be worse, but I hope not.
4. Snacks: Buy, Bring or Boycott?
I usually buy a Coke and a bag of popcorn.  It just makes the experience better for me, even if it tends to be way overpriced. I love good salty movie theater popcorn, but no extra butter please.
5. Teenagers used to go to the movies to make out. Have you ever and if so, when was the last time?
I did when I was a teenager and in college, but I have not been to the movies on a date in years.  I probably wouldn’t now anyway.
6. Have you ever gone to an adult movie theater? Did you pull a Pee Wee Herman?
Never been to an adult movie theater.  They just don’t exist around here.

Bonus


Which all-time favorite movie would you pay to see on the big screen again? Of course cell phones, babies, and assholes are banned.
Hands down, without a doubt in my mind, Fried Green Tomatoes. I never had the chance to see it in the theater, but given the chance, I would be the first in line if it was shown again. I could watch this movie over and over again and never tire of it.  But to really answer the question, a movie that I saw in the theater that I would go see again…it would have to be between Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark or the latest Star Trek.  Indiana Jones makes the list mainly because I don’t remember seeing it the first time, though I know we saw it in the theater.  I think it would be so cool to see it on the big screen.  Star Trek makes the list because it was truly fantastic on the big screen (I’m a bit of a Trekkie) and loses some of the effect when watched on the small screen.

Not This Again: The Circumcision Debate Continues

The American Academy of Pediatrics on Monday announced its first major shift on circumcision in more than a decade, concluding that the health benefits of the procedure clearly outweigh any risks.

“There is clear evidence that supports the health benefits of circumcision,” said Susan Blank, who led the 14-member task force that formulated the new policy being published in the journal Pediatrics.

The statement, and accompanying technical report, marks the first revision of the organization’s position since 1999, when the academy backed away from circumcision. At that time, the group, which represents about 60,000 pediatricians nationwide, concluded that there was no clear evidence for or against circumcising newborns. The group affirmed that position in 2005.
 Since then, the popularity of circumcision in the United States has declined. Only about 56 percent of newborn males are circumcised.

The academy’s task force spent seven years combing through the latest research, analyzing more than a thousand studies. Their conclusion?
For starters, Blank says, circumcision helps baby boys pretty much immediately.

“The health benefits of male circumcision include a drop in the risk of urinary tract infection in the first year of life by up to 90 percent,” she says.

But there’s a much bigger reason to do it, Blank said. Circumcised males are far less likely to get infected with a long list of sexually transmitted diseases.
“It drops the risk of heterosexual HIV acquisition by about 60 percent. It drops the risk of human papillomavirus [HPV], herpes virus and other infectious genital ulcers,” she says.

It also reduces the chances that men will spread HPV to their wives and girlfriends, protecting them from getting cervical cancer.

“We’ve reviewed the data and, you know, we have gone through them with a fine-tooth comb, and the data are pretty convincing,” she says.

Critics, however, were not convinced. They liken the procedure to female genital mutilation.

“We have no right as parents or as physicians or adults to strap them down and chop off a normal part of their body. To do that is a human rights violation and an ethical travesty,” says Georgeanne Chapin of the anti-circumcision group Intact America.

Chapin and other critics argue that the scientific evidence is questionable. For one thing, the studies about HIV have only been done in Africa, where AIDS is much more common among heterosexuals.

“They’re cherry-picking their evidence,” she says. “They act as though there’s this huge body of literature. It’s all the same couple of studies that have been regurgitated and reprogrammed. Over the past 150 years, all kinds of medical benefits have been proposed as resulting from cutting off the foreskin, and they have all been disproven.”

Critics also question the safety of the procedure, saying too many boys are damaged for life by botched circumcisions.

But many experts say the academy is making the right call. They dismiss any comparison to female genital mutilation as grossly misleading and say male circumcision is about as safe as any procedure could be.

Some think the academy’s position is long overdue, and that the group should have gone even further and more forcefully recommended circumcision.

“I think that all healthy newborn babies should be circumcised,” saysEdgar Schoen, a professor emeritus at the University of California, San Francisco. “I feel about newborn circumcision the way I do about immunization: It’s a potent preventive health procedure that gives you a health advantage.”

For its part, the pediatricians group hopes the new recommendations will encourage more parents to circumcise their sons — and more insurance plans to pay for it. As Shots reported last week, a lot of state Medicaid programs have stopped covering circumcision.

“Those families who choose circumcision should have access to circumcision. Cost should not be a barrier,” Blank says.

The federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has been promising for years now to issue the government’s first guidelines about circumcision. But the CDC keeps delaying it and still has not said when that will happen.


Queer Conference at the College of Wooster

I would like to draw your attention to a queer conference that will be held at the College of Wooster from October 4-7, 2012.

“Global Queerness: Sexuality, Citizenship, and Human Rights in the 21st Century”

Cherrie Moraga will be giving our keynote address and we will have keynote performances by E. Patrick Johnson and Marga Gomez.Jimmy A. Noriega, Assistant Professor of Theatre and Dance at The College of Wooster, requested that I help circulate the call-for-papers among my faculty and students, as well as anyone else you feel may be interested in attending and/or presenting at our conference. All of the events are free and open to the public and we hope that you will consider joining us for the proceedings. If you need any assistance or would like additional information, do not hesitate to contact Jimmy Noriega at jnoriega@wooster.edu.

The conference website is: http://globalqueerness.voices.wooster.edu/



I am considering presenting a paper myself, and since some of you are in academia as well, I encourage you to submit a paper as well.

Call for Papers

We invite the submission of proposals for a scholarly conference to be held at the College of Wooster (Wooster, Ohio), from October 4-7, 2012. The interdisciplinary nature of this meeting will allow participants to engage with the themes of queer identity, belonging, race, gender, and human rights in an academic and social context. The conference will consist of a keynote address by Cherríe Moraga, keynote performances by E. Patrick Johnson and Marga Gomez, scholarly panels, roundtable discussions, a queer international film screening, a forum with queer athletes, and a celebration to end the gathering. An atmosphere of diversity and equality will engage all involved and promote acceptance and understanding between individuals of all backgrounds. With the growing number of LGBTQ students across U.S. campuses, we hope to use this conference as a way of putting the College of Wooster at the forefront of this important social dialogue.

This is a queer-focused conference designed for scholars, students, creative writers, human rights advocates, and performance artists to present and discuss their work and to exchange and encourage new ways of engaging with LGBTQ issues across disciplines and institutions.

Proposals from all disciplines are welcome. We are soliciting proposals that address topics including, but not limited to:

Queer theory and criticism
Queer images and media
Queer identities in global contexts
Queer theatre and performance
Queer health and wellbeing
Transgender identities and experiences
Queerness and the fine arts
Queerness and faith
Queer history
Queer literature
Queer issues in education
LGBTQ politics, law, and justice

Please send an abstract of no more than 500 words and a CV to aatay@wooster.edu andjnoriega@wooster.edu

Deadline: August 15, 2012.


Let’s Play A Game…

Can any one guess why there is not a real post here today?
(The picture is a hint.)


The Dandy

Quite honestly, I really had no idea what to write about today; however, I came across this picture and the fist thought in my mind was “dandy.”  A dandy is a man who places particular importance upon physical appearance, refined language, and leisurely hobbies, pursued with the appearance of nonchalance in a cult of Self.  Historically, especially in late 18th- and early 19th-century Britain, a dandy, who was self-made, often strove to imitate an aristocratic lifestyle despite coming from a middle-class background.  Though the definition of a dandy may sound like a bad stereotype of a gay man, many of the dandies in history were homosexual.

The dandy creates his own unity by aesthetic means. But it is an aesthetic of negation. “To live and die before a mirror”: that according to Baudelaire, was the dandy’s slogan. It is indeed a coherent slogan. The dandy is, by occupation, always in opposition. He can only exist by defiance. Up to now, man derived his coherence from the Creator. But from the moment that he consecrates his rupture from Him, he finds himself delivered over to the fleeting moment, to the passing days, and to wasted sensibility. Therefore he must take himself in hand. The dandy rallies his forces and creates a unity for himself by the very violence of his refusal. Profligate, like all people without a rule of life, he is only coherent as an actor. But an actor implies a public; the dandy can only play a part by setting himself up in opposition. He can only be sure of his own existence by finding it in the expression of others’ faces. Other people are his mirror. A mirror that quickly becomes clouded, it’s true, since human capacity for attention is limited. It must be ceaselessly stimulated, spurred on by provocation. The dandy, therefore, is always compelled to astonish. Singularity is his vocation, excess his way to perfection. Perpetually incomplete, always on the fringe of things, he compels others to create him, while denying their values. He plays at life because he is unable to live it.

Just Because…

…I’d love to be in Venice, Italy, right now.

The Conch Republic

The Conch Republic was established by secession of the Florida Keys from the United States of America, on April 23rd, 1982 in response to a United States Border Patrol Blockade setup on highway U.S.1 at Florida City just to the north of the Florida Keys. This heinous act effectively isolated Keys Citizens from the U.S. mainland since the blockade was on our only land artery to and from the mainland. This roadblock portrayed Keys residents as non-U.S. citizens who had to prove their citizenship in order to drive onto the Florida mainland! Hardly an American thing to do!

 Today, the Conch Republic celebrates its thirtieth birthday. The thirtieth anniversary celebration runs from April 20-29. The gay community of Key West joins in o the celebration with several events at the Bourbon Street Pub. Key West’s Great Conch Republic Drag Race wore Saturday. The race featured 16 high-heeled female impersonators navigating across an obstacle course filled with automobile tires and scantily-clad passengers in shopping carts. According to the Florida Keys News Bureau, the race was hosted by the republic’s Bourbon Street Pub Complex, where contestants raced down Duval Street, or the fittingly nicknamed “main drag.” The wacky drag challenge has been held annually since 1982 as part of Key West’s independence celebration. This year’s celebration runs through April 29th, filled with other events to look forward to such as a reenactment of the secession, a fun sea battle with tall ships, and an open-air bed race that’s said to be “the most fun you can have in bed with your clothes on.”

 The City of Key West is a menagerie of people from all walks of life. The people of Key West are fortunate to live in a tolerant community that respects and celebrates differences. They have a vibrant gay and lesbian community and Key West has been ranked as one of the “Top Gay and Lesbian Destinations” in the world. This spirit of tolerance is evident everywhere on the Island. Filled with a funky charm, Key West is a sophisticated place with amazing restaurants, diverse entertainment, eclectic art, professional theatre, and live music that includes salsa, show tunes, disco, country, opera, and classical. Key West’s gay and lesbian guest houses are legendary, and our mainstream hotels and inns are always All Welcome. Drag shows, commitment ceremonies, water excursions, late night parties, beaches, clothing optional resorts, and the only gay & lesbian historic trolley tour make our island the preeminent LGBT vacation choice. But the best part about our town is our open and accepting attitude. “One Human Family” is our city motto, and our closets are only used for our costumes!

One of these days, I am going to have to visit Key West.  It sounds like a fantastically fun place, and one of my favorite writers, Ernest Hemingway, used to live there. Hemingway lived and wrote in Key West for more than ten years beginning in the 1930s. Calling Key West home, he found solace and great physical challenge in the turquoise waters that surround this tiny island.