Monthly Archives: August 2013

Why Is The Epistle of James Relevant to Gays?

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This post should have come before all of the posts about the book of James; however, since I was studying the book myself as I was presenting it to you, this is the conclusion regarding why it is so relevant to gay Christians. I hope that you have enjoyed our study of James as much as I have. There is a lot of information I. This small book of the Bible that is relevant to us as well as all Christians.

Most all of us lived through the era of WWJD. What Would Jesus Do was imprinted on just about everything that can possibly hold a print. I refuse to be negative about it. It seems I’m in the minority with that as I searched WWJD on Google this week, 98% of the sites contained jokes about the phrase and they were all bad so I am not going to tell you one.

Over the past month or so we did not look at what Jesus would do necessarily, but at “What Would Jesus’ Brother Do?” The Epistle of James in the back of your Bible is a little five chapter letter that was written to some of the Jewish Christians that had been run out of town (Jerusalem) due to persecution and they were really struggling with things like their faith and their relationship with one another. So Jesus’ half brother James (half brother because Mary was their mother, but Joseph was only James’ dad) who had become a major leader in the early church writes a letter to encourage and instruct them.

As gay Christians we are often shunned by our churches as well. We face persecution form other Christians just as the Jewish Christians faced persecution from other Jews. We often struggle with our faith, because so many Christians see us as inherently sinful because we are homosexual and we have been taught this our entire life. We struggle with coming to terms with being both Christian and gay. Not only do we have to face persecution and questions from other Christians, but often we face similar questions from other homosexuals who question how we can be part of a religion that pushes us away.

James answers this throughout his Epistle. He tells us that our faith will be tested and we must be steadfast. He says that we cannot merely hear the word but we must be doers of the word, so that our actions speak for our faith. James entreats us to show no partiality; therefore, we should not go by appearance alone but if we follow the Word of God, then we will treat all people the same. Likewise, he says that if we have faith but do not show that faith through our good deeds, then we do not truly have faith.

James admonishes us to tame our tongues, so that we do not speak to quickly or foolishly. He tells us that true wisdom comes from above, and we should look to God for guidance. He also tells us that the jealousy and disdain showed to us by others (our fellow Christians or our fellow homosexuals, in the case of this study) is worldliness. Only our Heavenly Father may judge, humanity cannot. He tells us not to boast about those thing we do not yet know, and that wealth can often lead us astray. Lastly, James relates to us that patience is suffering yet it is also a great virtue. Prayers will be answered, though they may not be answered in the way we hope, yet we must continue to pray for God hears all of our prayer.


Moment of Zen: Just Because

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First Day

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Our first day was yesterday, and it was a long one. I left the house at 8am after getting dressed and fixing myself a cup of coffee, because our letter told us to report at 9am. Since it’s a 40 minute drive, I was expecting to be early; however, unbeknownst to me and half the other teachers who actually read the letter, everything started at 8am, not 9am. There was apparently a typo.

Things did not start out too well, but it got better. After an initial meeting we were dismissed to our rooms to get them ready for open house that night. Open house was at 6pm. I went and visited with my parents part of the afternoon because they are closer than driving home and then back to school. Our open house was a bit chaotic, because parents (like their children) don’t k ow to shut up when someone is talking. After eating and meeting with parents, I went over to a friends house for a little while and did not get home until nearly 11pm. Yes, the last part was my fault. I could have been home about 8:30, but decided to visit a while first.

Though the letter said to report today at 8am, we were assured that we need not be there until 9am, so like yesterday morning I am going to leisurely head to school about 8am, after fixing my coffee, hoping I don’t get another phone call on my way asking where I am.

Tomorrow will probably be a long day as well. We will probably have some professional development in the morning. After they feed us lunch and hopefully dismiss us for the day, I am going to meet my mother in Montgomery to do a little shopping. When we finish shopping I will probably head to a friends house for our usually Friday evening of drinks and relaxation.

I will rest up this weekend, then be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed Monday morning for what I am optimistically referring to as a fantastic school year with the kids.


Piled Higher and Deeper

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I know that some of you attended graduate school, and if so, and you haven’t discovered PHD Comics, then you’ve been missing out. The characters in the comics are all science majors, but the life of a graduate student is universal in many ways. The two most recent comics made me laugh out loud. I hope they have the same effect on you.

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About Piled Higher and Deeper

The strip:

“Piled Higher and Deeper” (PhD) is the comic strip about life (or the lack thereof) in academia.

The author:

Jorge Cham, the author of PHD Comics, got his PhD in Mechanical Engineering at Stanford University, and was a full-time Instructor and researcher at the California Institute of Technology (Caltech) from 2003-2005.


The End of Summer

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Today is my last day of summer vacation. I go back to school tomorrow. We have teacher workdays Thursday and Friday, then the students come back on Monday. Where has my summer gone? It really feels like the school year just ended last week. I always think of summer as being three months off, but we really only got two months off. I am not ready for school to start back. Smart-mouthed kids, lazy students, and early mornings…YUCK!

I’m going to spend my last day of freedom reading. This hasn’t been the best summer; it’s actually been pretty stressful. However, some of my stresses have recently been relieved, and I was just starting to recover and relax some. Now it all comes to an end.

My hope is that this will be a great school year, and that the students that I am dreading dealing with this year won’t be as bad as I expect.


Move to the City

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Move to the City
by Nathaniel Bellows

live life as a stranger. Disappear
into frequent invention, depending
on the district, wherever you get off
the train. For a night, take the name
of the person who’d say yes to that
offer, that overture, the invitation to
kiss that mouth, sit on that lap. Assume
the name of whoever has the skill to
slip from the warm side of the sleeping
stranger, dress in the hallway of the
hotel. This is a city where people
know the price of everything, and
know that some of the best things
still come free. In one guise: shed
all that shame. In another: flaunt the
plumage you’ve never allowed
yourself to leverage. Danger will
always be outweighed by education,
even if conjured by a lie. Remember:
go home while it’s still dark. Don’t
invite anyone back. And, once inside,
take off the mask. These inventions
are the art of a kind of citizenship,
and they do not last. In the end, it
might mean nothing beyond further
fortifying the walls, crystallizing
the questioned, tested autonomy,
ratifying the fact that nothing will be
as secret, as satisfying, as the work
you do alone in your room.

About This Poem
“What can one learn from anonymity? Freedom, flexibility, invention, the chance to know who you are by acting out who you may not be. There is a lot to be gained from participating in the world around you, from engagement. This poem is an homage to the art of autonomy.”
–Nathaniel Bellows

About this Poet
Nathaniel Bellows is the author of Why Speak? (W. W. Norton, 2008). He is also the author of the novel, On This Day (HarperCollins, 2003). Bellows lives in New York City.

Many of us who write blogs do so in anonymity, so we know that we can learn much from anonymity. As an anonymous blogger, I continue to learn more about myself. There is so much we can learn from Mr. Bellows’s poem. I chose this poem the same way I choose many poems, after reading it and reading what the author said about it, the poem spoke to me. Poems that speak to us, are often the greatest of poetry because it brings its own meaning to our soul.


National Underwear Day

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In an effort to publicly shine light on “unmentionables,” Freshpair founded National Underwear Day on August 5th, 2003. Over the last 10 years they’ve celebrated underwear by hosting New York City model events, massive underwear giveaways, a pop-up shop in Columbus Circle, and a Times Square runway show.

Throughout the years, thousands of people have written Freshpair and shared acts of confidence. They’ve heard from cancer survivors struggling to regain their lives, men and women suffering with poor body image, and young and old embracing their sexuality. This year National Underwear Day is about EVERYONE.

As the founder of National Underwear Day, Freshpair understands that confidence is the byproduct of believing in one’s self. And this year they want more people to do just that. That’s why they’re inviting everyone who has ever doubted themselves to join them in attempting to break a Guinness World Record in Times Square. All you need to bring is your underwear.

There are a few rules:

Record Breaking Rules

Freshpair encourages you to show your individuality and confidence by wearing your favorite undies, but in order to break the Guinness World Record everyone must adhere to the following guidelines.

1. Men must be wearing underpants, boxers, boxer briefs or briefs. They cannot be wearing shirts, undershirts, or jock straps.
2. Women must wear underpants, thongs (not too revealing; allowed on a case-by-case basis), shapewear or boyshorts (that are clearly underwear). Shirts or full coverage bras are also permitted.
4. All participants can wear socks and shoes.
4. If it rains, ponchos are not permitted but umbrellas are.

Event Etiquette

1. Remember that, although the National Underwear Day event is 18+ years of age, Times Square is a family-friendly location. Be courteous, but have fun. Wear fun undies, but keep in mind revealing items may be offensive to some.
2. Nudity is strictly prohibited. Although it’s not illegal to go topless in NYC, Times Square is a family-friendly location so we should all be considerate of non-NUD participants, passers-by, and tourists.
3. National Underwear Day is all about public displays of confidence (#PDC) but public displays of affection, towards any participants, are discouraged.

I’d love to witness National Underwear Day in Times Square, but since it’s not possible for me to be there, I plan to spend as much of today as possible in just my underwear. Why don’t you join me? Be confident, be proud!


The Prayer of Faith

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Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise. Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed fervently that it might not rain, and for three years and six months it did not rain on the earth. Then he prayed again, and heaven gave rain, and the earth bore its fruit. My brothers, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone brings him back, let him know that whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins.
James 5:13-20

James ends his epistle with a discussion on prayer. Prayer is communication or communion with God. It can be a petition or an appeal to Him confessing our sins and asking for forgiveness. It can be conversation with Him giving Him praise for showering us with blessings.

It can be an outpouring of thanksgiving from the innermost part of our heart. It can be a request for help or assistance for us or for someone else. It is talking to our Heavenly Father just as we talk to people around us.

Sometimes when we pray to God, we might think that He is not listening because we do not get immediate response or answer to our prayer. The Old Testament tells us that David was praying to God for help because his enemies were fighting with him, but he felt his prayer was not being heard. David said, “When my prayers returned to me unanswered, I went about mourning as though for my friend or brother” (Psalm 35: 13, 14).

God does hear each and every one of our prayers; however, some of them are denied for reasons we do not understand. Maybe the timing is bad or the request can be met in a better and more beneficial way. We must realize that we do not always know what is good for us.

It would be wonderful and our life would be so simple and non-stressful if we could only accept God’s answers the way children do. If we could only have the faith of a child and accept when we don’t get our way, through faith, believe God has something better.

There are times we pray for ourselves and there are times we pray for other people. We are not being selfish when we pray for ourselves. God knows our needs and He knows our wants. These two things don’t always match and many times our wants are not good for us, therefore, we don’t get what we ask for.

Should we stop praying when we don’t get results as we think we should? Are we to believe in our heart that God is not listening; He doesn’t care, the request is too small or too big, we are not worthy, or we are asking for the impossible?

The truth is that we should never stop praying just because our prayer is not answered on the first go-around. God is always listening and in fact He knows what we are going to ask for even before we ask. He cares about every facet of our life and nothing is too small or too big.

Since He created us, we are His child and He cares for us just as we as earthly parents care for our children. We should never be concerned that our request or prayer is impossible because “….with God all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26).

Some people feel that it is not proper for them to pray for themselves. They believe that it is a selfish act so they ask others to pray for them or to keep them in their prayers. James penned these words: “Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray.” (James 5:13). People face different mountains of suffering. One could be suffering from a sickness or an illness of some nature. The physical body could be hurting or the mind could be confused.

James goes on to say, “Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing psalms” (v. 13). As a child of God, we are blessed in many ways. First of all, God has given us the breath of life. He keeps our heart beating 24 hours each day. He has given us an earthly family who loves us and cares for us. We have food to eat, clothes to wear, a shelter in which to live, a means of earning a living, numerous material things to enjoy, and a Savior who loves us so much He took all of our sins and placed them at the foot of the Cross.

All of us have been sick at one time or another, but how many times have we called the elders of the church? James said, “Is anyone among you sick? Let Him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord” (James 5:14). People should request the services of the minister when they are in need. In some churches, the minister and the elders will respond to a call from the sick person. It is the duty of the sick person to notify the church of their condition so that they can be placed on the prayer list and prayed for during the service or prayer meeting.

James says, “And the prayer of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise him up.” You might ask about the “prayer of faith” as to what it means. Prayer is talking intimately with God and “Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see” (Hebrews 11:1). It is mandatory that the person praying and the person being prayed for have a lively faith.

Faith in itself does not heal, but it is God who does the healing. Our prayers are the beginning of the healing process. God waits for our prayers which are asked “….in the name of the Lord” (v. 14) before he steps in to take care of our requests. He answers our prayers according to His will.

James goes on to tell us that “The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective” (v. 16). Who is a righteous man? The word righteous indicates that the man is honest, good, upright and honorable in the sight of Almighty God.

No man or woman is perfect “….for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23), but Jesus made it possible for us to talk to God and ask for forgiveness. A righteous person who has sinned will ask for forgiveness either privately or publicly. A righteous person reflects the image of his Creator. God can and will work through a righteous person and bring about marvelous happenings.


Moment of Zen: Chill Gay Dude

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I came across a new blog yesterday, Chill Gay Dude. The blogger is named Travis. He’s a pretty typical 18 year old guy, but he’s gay and nobody knows it. He started his blog to get some stuff off his chest, as most of us do, and share this part of my life, anonymously. It’s a new blog, but if you read through his posts, I think, like me, you will be reminded of those early years of life in the closet, when your horny, perving on your guy friends, and scared to death that someone might find out.


Friday Funny: Walmart Cake

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After I had read the caption, I couldn’t stop laughing. I try to avoid Walmart as much as possible, but where I live, it’s Walmart or Dollar General, unless you go to a bigger city.