Category Archives: Moment of Zen

Moment of Zen: Acceptance

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Acceptance can be elusive at times, and finding acceptance can be quite a struggle, but when you find it, it makes your heart soar, because you are no longer alone. It can be the acceptance of many different things, but I’m sure for most of my readers, it is the acceptance of our sexuality. After publicly coming out, Ricky Martin said, “These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed.”


Moment of Zen: The Winter Olympics

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There are a lot of athletes I could have chosen for my moment of zen, but because of the great pictures of John Daly, I decided to choose him. I hope you find the Winter Olympics a Zen moment. I, obviously, realize there is controversy over Russia’s anti-gay propaganda laws, but the Olympics are about peace and honor. As the Olympic Charter states “The practice of sport is a human right. Every individual must have the possibility of practicing sport, without discrimination of any kind and in the Olympic spirit, which requires mutual understanding with a spirit of friendship, solidarity and fair play.” Go Team USA! I also wish all of the athletes a wonderful and safe games.

John Daly
Age: 28
Team: USA
Sport: Skeleton Race
Why watch him: Daly was a BMX racer in his teens and a college track star. He finished in fourth place at the 2013 World Cup race, which is a long way from coming in 17th place back in 2010 at the Vancouver games.


Moment of Zen: The Year of the Horse

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I want to dedicate today’s Moment of Zen to my dear friend “fan of casey.” He has been a long time loyal follower and a true friend. There are many times when I don’t know what I would do without his advice and generosity. He is also a Chinese-American, and so this post for the Chinese New Year is for him especially, but also for any other readers of Chinese descent who celebrate the Chinese New Year..

The 15-day celebration of Chinese new year started on Friday, with the first new moon of the calendar year. The day marks the end of the year of the snake and welcomes the start of the year of the horse. To bring you luck this new year, I’ve listed eight (a lucky number in China) things you possibly didn’t know about the year ahead.

1) The Chinese zodiac – or Shēngxiào – is a calendar system originating in the Han dynasty (206-220BC), which names each of the years in its 12-year cycle after an animal: the rat, ox, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, goat, monkey, rooster, dog and pig, in that order. According to the system, the universe is made up of five elements – earth, water, fire, wood and metal – which interact with the 12 animals, resulting in the specific character of the year ahead.

2) People born in the year of the horse are said to be a bit like horses: animated, active and energetic – they love being in a crowd. They are quick to learn independence – foals can walk minutes after birth – and they have a straightforward and positive attitude towards life. They are known for their communication skills and are exceedingly witty.

3) If you were born in the year of the horse, you should be looking for potential partners who were born in the years of the tiger, goat or dog. Avoid those born in the year of the rat, ox, rabbit or horse. You won’t like them.

4) If none of this rings true, don’t worry. The animal signs of each year merely indicate how others see you or how you choose to present yourself. There are also animal signs for each month, known as inner animals, signs for each day, called true animals, and animals for each hour, or secret animals.

5) According to superstition, in your zodiac year you will offend Tai Sui, the god of age, and will experience bad luck for the whole year. To avoid this you should wear something red, which has been given to you by someone else. In general, the lucky colors of team horse are green, red and purple; the lucky numbers are three, four and nine, and the lucky flowers are giant taro and jasmine.

6) Raymond Lo, a feng shui and destiny consultant, says the year of the horse is a year in which people are likely to stand firm on their principles, making negotiation difficult. For example, 2002 (the last year of the horse) was the year of Roy Keane and Mick McCarthy’s legendary World Cup bustup, and 1990 was the year of the poll tax riots. German reunification also happened in 1990, but we’ll ignore that.

7) If you were born in the year of the horse, you’re in good company. Fellow members of the horse club include Genghis Khan, Mongol ruler; Franklin D Roosevelt, the 32nd president of the US; Louis Pasteur, a 19th-century scientist; Neil Armstrong, the first man on the moon; the American singer Aretha Franklin; and the model Cindy Crawford.

8) Years of the wooden horse are associated with warfare. The battle of Dien Bien Phu, which ended with the defeat of France by the Vietnamese, happened in 1954 and 1894 saw the start of the first Sino-Japanese war. “With such serious conflicts on historical record in the previous two yang wood horse years, I cannot rule out the possibility of war and fierce battle in 2014,” predicts Lo.

Kung hei fat choy! Happy Chinese new year!

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Moment of Zen: America

America isn’t easy. America is advanced citizenship. You gotta want it bad, ’cause it’s gonna put up a fight. It’s gonna say “You want free speech? Let’s see you acknowledge a man whose words make your blood boil, who’s standing center stage and advocating at the top of his lungs that which you would spend a lifetime opposing at the top of yours. You want to claim this land as the land of the free? Then the symbol of your country can’t just be a flag; the symbol also has to be one of its citizens exercising his right to burn that flag in protest. Show me that, defend that, celebrate that in your classrooms. Then, you can stand up and sing about the “land of the free”

President Andrew Shepherd (Michael Douglas), The American President (1995)


Moment of Zen: A Favorite

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There have not been a lot of moments of zen this week, because of the death of my aunt, missing my much needed vacation/cruise, and going back to school early. Because of the misery of this week, I wanted this week’s moment of zen to be one of my favorite pictures. I used this picture once before on this blog in a different context, but I love it for many different reasons and just wanted to share it. I find it so incredibly sexy. I don’t know if I can describe why I find it sexy: maybe it’s the tattoo, maybe it’s the perfect little nipple surrounded by just a bit of hair, maybe it’s the blond underarm hair, or the freckles, or that he’s not too muscular, the other guy’s hand on his shoulder, or maybe it’s all of the above. I just know that I find it incredibly sexy and it brightens my week to look back on my earlier post with this picture and remember all the subtleties of this picture that make it a moment of zen especially after a particularly dreadful week.


Moment of Zen: Cruising

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I’m leaving in just a few hours to head to a friend’s house in Louisiana, from where we will leave to go to New Orleans to board the Carnival Sunshine on Sunday. I’m so excited!

P.S. I will not have readily available Internet access until I return home Monday, January 20th. Please do continue to comment, as I should be able to receive email until the ship reaches he Gulf of Mexico Sunday night. However, I will not be able to respond, but I promise that I will read each and every comment and email upon my return.


Moment of Zen: Guys in Sweatpants

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One of the things that I love about cooler weather is the number of guys who wear sweatpants. A really sexy pair of sweatpants worn with the right kind of underwear or none at all leaves little to the imagination, which I find all the better. Of course some of the guys above are obviously in warmer weather than most of us are experiencing. Today and tomorrow will be fairly nice here in Alabama, but Monday and Tuesday the lows are expected in the teens. It makes for a good time to snuggle with a guy in sweatpants and let your hand wonder south of the waistband.

First Resolution Report:

I did three things to mKe myself more assertive this week: 1) I called the vet’s office to get HRH better care since she wasn’t getting better, 2) I sent an email to an online merchant about their poor customer service, and 3) I set up an online profile to try and find some local gay friends. These may not sound like huge steps, but they are things I needed to do or wanted to do, and I didn’t allow myself be be talked out of it by my own self. We will see how these things work out.


Moment of Zen: Cuddle Time

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Y’all know how much I love HRH. She stayed groggy from the medication much longer than I expected, but she seems to be doing better. Now I just have to get her to eat. One of our favorite things is our cuddle time together. I found this picture particularly perfect since it was a cute guy with a cat and an ohm symbol tattoo (very zen!).

I’ve always said that I’d get an ohm tattoo if I ever got one. I just don’t know where it would be.


Moment of Zen: Merry Christmas Edition

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Moment of Zen: The Beckoning

Sometimes, your warm bed just beckons you to stay. Today is one of those days. I’m just sorry that my bed doesn’t have the same beauty beckoning me as in the picture above.